quick synopsis - i am in a hurry lol
you guys made a move
you had to adjust because you changed a lot of facets of your life for this move
you have found things that interest you
that make you happy
so you have changed in a sense and are growing
sometimes when in a partnership, when one person changes, the other does not
he cannot understand why you are suddenly so new and different to him
so he suspects that it cannot possibly be due to internal growth
(because he has gotten complacent with you and now takes you and the relationship for granted)
so since it is not possible for you to grow (since he had no involvement)
he is looking for external, tangible reasons for your change
and it is because you are "interested" in another man
he cannot figure it out and this was an easy solution
you need to step back first and see if i am right about you having changed
are you a different person that you were a year ago
do you like how things are going for you?
are you happy?
you need to have a non-emotional talk with him - and that means, if possible, no yelling and screaming
the only way he will be happy again is if you go back to your dormant self
so you need to show him that it is the work you do now, or the new experiences (of HA even living in HAWAII now geez lol) that are making you happy
if he cannot get that thru his thick head, then he needs to understand that he is going to slowly lose the best thing that ever happened to him
keep us posted
HUGS
e