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This Weeks Topic : GUILT
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From: MomOf4  (Original Message)Sent: 2/28/2007 5:49 PM
I know that I had lots of feelings of guilt for a long time after my Bobby died.  I felt guilty for not getting there sooner, and, then for not being able to do anything to help  him when I did get there!  And, sometimes these feelings still haunt me.  Even after almost 6 years.  But, I know that I am not to blame for what happened to my precious son.  I would have given my own life if it would have helped him. And, now, sometimes I feel badly (I don't know if I would call it guilt) because I have moved 1300  miles away and cannot visit his resting place on his special days.  But, he always said that if a person cares about someone, they should let them know throughout the year and not just on special days...And, my Bobby did know that he was very much loved by a lot of people...
 
The word guilt implies that you I did  something wrong...and  I did nothing wrong....
I also know, from personal experience, that feelings of guilt are not that  easy to dismiss....but, we have to  try....it does not do us or anyone else any good to tear ourselves apart when we have done nothing wrong......that is...unless loving someone with all our heart is wrong......and that is all you did. 


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From: MSN NicknameNancyakaMamaKassSent: 4/24/2007 3:35 PM
That is a hard on for me to deal with all the time......especially since I lost my daughter to suicide....but it is something that I am comeing to tearms with.....I know that if loveing her could have saved her she would still be here......
 
Hugs
Nancy JO

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From: MomOf4Sent: 4/26/2007 8:25 PM
Nancy, you did nothing wrong....which is what the word guilt implies....just as I did nothing wrong....I know that our children would not want us to feel this way....and I also know how hard it is not to feel this way sometimes.........our love can do a lot, but, not in this case. 
I wish that I could give you a big hug right now....I think you need one....
You are in my thoughts and prayers for peace and gentle healing.
Love and hugs....Rean

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From: MSN NicknameHeartandsoul6042Sent: 12/3/2007 2:28 PM
hi i know what you mean by feeling guilty i do sometimes because i couldn't do anything to save tommy either when we called 911 from my kitchen the said not to do cpr if he was shaking all over because it could do more harm then good all we could do was wait and it seemed like it was taking forever and i live right down the street from the fire hall the problem is that we live at #1 but the blockes are way off because the first block on lake doesn't start at 1 so you tell me what a stupid thing that was to do and it seemed like forever i went out into the street and had to wave them down they were stopping up the street i had so much guilt and was blaming them too but when i taked to the doctor she said when she open tommy up his heart was 3times it;s size that the only thing that could of saved was a new heart but i still feel bad because we all tried to get him to see a doctor long ago but he was a thirt nine year old man but a baby to me.so i feel everyone's pain but we have to belive that one day we all will be together again i have to belive it so much and that's a hard thing for mr to think about.welll  all i have to do now is get stamps for my christmas cards.
 your friend sandy

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From: MSN Nicknamemissmyjp15Sent: 9/7/2008 10:16 PM
Nancy...i know how you feel...i lost my son to suicide as well..he took his life in jan of this year...i still ask myself...what if i didn't go to work that day...all the what if questions...people tell me not too..but it is hard!

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