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| From:  SissyMarlene (Original Message) | Sent: 2/18/2008 12:13 AM |
Greetings in Jesus' Name. There is an on going battle of a divorce kind....WITH THE KIDS HELD HOSTAGE IN THE MIDDLE! These are my brother-in-law (hubby's brother) & his wife's son's kids. It was both their own faults (and certainly could have been dealt with differently). However, the end result is that the kids' mother remarried and refuses ANY visitation of the 2 kids to their dad OR their grandparents (my BIL & wife). They have been to numerous courts about it and have spent so much money it is unbelievable that it should go on so long: 2 YEARS! and they have not seen the kids PLUS she is trying to get his parental rights terminated and wants her new husband to adopt them!! In doing this, she has lied repeatedly and has moved and withheld them sooo long...even when court ordered. Every court case tho has been "rescheduled" so that nothing seems to be getting resolved. When I last saw these two adorable children, their Grammy (my Christian sister-in-law) was soooo in love with them and had them to her house very often....they are the loves of her life I can tell you. She was always a great Mom but an even better Grammy!! It hurts so much to see her pain when yet another of their birthdays or Christmas or summer vacation goes by without any contact with them and hear the lies the Mom is saying against her too...and lies they ARE!! My prayer has been: Lord, if you can't change the Mother's mind, could Gramma & Grampa please just raise those kids? They will make sure they are taken out of the harmful middle and placed in Your hands as they teach these precious children about YOU. Please PLEASE help them Lord. Yet again, the last court day was postponed...sigh...and is taking it's toll on them. This is what I received from her just today: Our family is requesting all our families and friends to please be joined in prayer for us at 11:00 a.m. Wednesday, February 20th. It is a long story that I can't get into right now but we will need prayers for wisdom, strength, and justice. Please feel free to have other people join us in these prayers. We are up against a terrible injustice and we will need to have a lot of strength to persevere. Love to you, PLEASE be in prayer for their favor with the court system on that date. Thank you so much for reading this and for you who will pray for them. Giant sissy hugs, Your sissy, Marlene |
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From Our Sissy Diane:
We need to have everyone praying for Adam and our family starting at 8:30 a.m. and through out the day tomorrow (Monday March 1st). Cindy is still pursuing the adoption of our grandchildren by her new husband and trying to takeaway Adam's rights to to be their father. We need the Holy Spirit to be with us very strong to open the judge's eyes to the truth and to throw the adoption petition out of the court. Thank you to all of you for your prayers for Adam and our family. He just got a wonderful job with the Local 41 and he starts working this week. He will have benefits in a few weeks for himself and his children. And the pay will help him catch up on child support and his bills. He has stayed in therapy this whole time and his whole demeaner has changed. He is definitely out of the depression and ready to rebuild his relationship with his kids. His faith has been restored also. Thank you for the love and support. I will update you all when this is over. Love, Di |
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| | (1 recommendation so far) | Message 19 of 31 in Discussion |
| | From: Aalie- | Sent: 3/31/2008 2:36 PM |
| Praying for God's victory in this family situation. I do not believe the court will allow the stepfather to adopt these children. And with the father getting his life back on track...and being able to prove that to the court...he may get to see his children soon...and then the grandparents also. Grandparents have rights too! Love, Aalie |
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Marlene... My heart is breaking for this family but my trust is in the Lord and not on the outward appearance of circumstances. I am praying for God's restoration power to go forth in this situation to bring these children back into relationship with their father and grandparents. Heartfelt prayers going up! ♥Carol |
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Please keep us updated. skypilot |
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((((((((((( Sissy Marlene  )))))))))
I'm still praying. Keep us updated. God bless you. Love you. |
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From my SIL (Sissy-in-Law&Love!)
Hi Everyone, Prayer update............The Holy Spirit was on fire yesterday in the heart of our lawyer and our family. We had all your love and prayers with us and positive things happened all day. I can't go into a lot of detail right now but believe me that things are definitely turning around. Keep the prayers going until June 16, 2008. That is the next court date and more of the truth will be revealed. We will have those two youngins back into our lives soon and things will be better. Pray for their mother to get the help she needs also. Adam got a wonderful job with the Local 41 Union. He will start out at a really great hourly rate that will enable him to catch up on his child support and rebuild his life. His faith has definitely been restored and your prayers are greatly appreciated. I know God has allowed this situation to happen to save Adam's life and to mold him into a really good man and father for his children. He has definitely grown up through all this and our family has never been closer. Thank you all once again. We love you all. Diane & Dan |
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April 27th, 2008 From my SIL Diane: Adam got to see his daughter for an hour yesterday. She was a little shy with him and then she began to talk to him a mile a minute about her love for dancing and for singing. Then she talked about her toys and what she liked to play with. She is so cute. She is so tall and skinny. And has these big hazel eyes and she is so mature. Adam cried for two hours yesterday over her. He didn't break down in front of her but afterwards for all the things he missed watching her go from toddler to this little girl who talks so well and is her own person. I told him he has to let go of that and make up to her all the years ahead. Cindy blocked him from seeing Austin right now because she convinced Austin's therapist that Austin would become psychotic if he had to see Adam. It is ridiculous to us but she has convinced Austin of terrible things about Adam that we know didn't happen and he is very afraid of Adam. Cindy's lies are beginning to surface in court and she is going to get in trouble for what she has done. Adam's therapist has recommended that Adam and Austin go to therapy together to undo the damage that Cindy has done. We go back to court in June and I have gathered evidence that shows what she has fabricated and we hope the judge throws out the adoption appeal so we can go back to civil court and get Adam's rights reinstated on the truth. Sami and Austin got to come over to our house for the first time today for 6 hours. We had a great time. Jim, Shirley, Colleen, Mike, Yesenia, Dan and myself played with them and did art things and talked and laughed and it was like no time had gone by at all. We sat on the patio after having their favorite foods that they remembered I made for them, Lasagna, garlic bread and brownies for dessert. Austin said he remembered that I made the best lasagna in the world. and Sami told Jim when they were making a zoo in my garden area "I will have Di Di make the tickets and money for the people to see our animals, she can make anything!" I was so happy to hear her say that. She remembered so much while she was here today. She kept reminding my kids of different things that they did with us and how much fun they had. Cindy told the courts that Sami didn't remember anything about us and didn't even know us. She is so wrong. Those kids left here today so happy and they can't wait to come back. They are going to drive Cindy crazy for the next three weeks. She cannot take us out of their hearts. No matter what she does. Adam was upset because they aren't allowed to talk about Adam to us. But we didn't stifle ourselves if something came up family wise and Adam was involved in the family situation we mentioned him in that situation. We didn't volunteer stuff about Adam but we weren't about to pretend he didn't exist either. And we refuse to address him as Adam to them as their mother has them calling him. Adam is their Dad and nothing is going to change that. He doesn't deserve to be treated this way but our fight is not with the kids, our fight is the evil that motivates Cindy to continue to hurt him. That we will battle in prayer and in the courts. We have to give the kids good memories of their visits with us and let the courts order Adam and his children to reconcile their relationship through love and therapy. It is going to take a little while to unbrainwash Austin of what his Mother has convinced him of. But we gave him nothing today to cause him any distress. We all had a wonderful time. It was a prayerful weekend and blessings were bestowed. God is answering our prayers and we are so grateful for His love and guidance. Adam is a much better person than he was when all this stuff started and when he is given the chance he will be a great Dad. And our family's faith and love for God and each other has never been stronger. God is so good as you well know! I was very blessed to hear your story. It never seizes to amaze me to hear about God in action. I have seen and felt His presence so strongly and vividly through what others would see as hopeless and disheartening situations and His light has shown through it all. He beckoned to us at those times to give it all to Him and for us to hold on to Him through the ride. And just like a roller coaster we clutched Him for His protection and then we relaxed and let out a sigh of relief when it was over. He never let us fall and kept us safe. Just having the kids here today and seeing how much they all loved each other and rejoiced in each other's presence made me realize once again how much we are blessed. Evil will not defeat this family because we have the strongest protection God can give us, His love and the love of family and friends and it is a powerful weapon against evil! I love you all and appreciate the prayers and good thoughts. We are receiving the blessings of your prayers. Love, Di |
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| | | From: Aalie- | Sent: 4/28/2008 6:44 PM |
| Thank you for sharing this update for this family..they will continually be in our prayers! Praise the Lord ..He is working things out for the good of all. We have an awesome and amazing God!! |
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Praying for Adam and his children. I am also pray for the mother. May the Lord comfort all involved and if it His will that there be reconciliation. Regardless,continue to trust in The Lord with all your Heart. Rick |
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Hi Brother
Rick,
Adam's ex wife not only
remarried but is trying to take away his parental rights so her new husband can
adopt the boys. She hired a "counselor" (who doesn't even have to go to school
for this title) and has lied repeatedly about Adam. Yes, their son definitely
acted out due to the divorce and the mothers constantly speaking against his dad
as she "shopped" for another husband. His son's fear is real but not the basis
for it.
The courts have finally
agree to allow a few independent psychiatrists to speak to Austin who was about
5 when this started and is now about 9....he really believes some of these
things she told him his dad did really happened, is not allowed to call him dad
(but Adam) and since she kept him & his sister away from him AND his
family (us), no one ever told him the truth!! This is why the note about their
visit (for an hour) was so joyous!!
God is definitely
intervening!
Thank you for your love,
concern & especially your prayers.
Giant sissy
hugs,
Your sissy,
Marlene |
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I have such a huge lump in my throat as I write this!! I received an update from my SIL Diane about her visit with the kids and saw their pictures...they were almost babies the last time I saw them (in comparison from then till now) and what she writes totally shocks me...I just cannot believe their Mother is doing this to them...you can literally SEE (as you read) the vengeful & spiteful attitude she has & she doesn't care WHO she hurts in the process, including these kids. I cannot believe the amount of money she is having to use to do all this either! *sigh*. I know it is a HUGE amount because Adam (the Dad) and Dan & Diane (the grandparents) are spending untold thousands to fight it (I really believe Cindy, the Mom, thought they would cave in due to the cost). I will post the pics she sent along with captions I add. Please understand that Dan & Di have 4 grown children - one lives in a far state and Adam the Dad who was not allowed to be there...but I do see the other 2 kids there...Austin & Sami's Auntie Colly & Uncle Jimmy. (I wish I could convey to you the closeness of this family so you would know just how loved these kids ARE by them all...maybe the pictures will help you know it) Thank you for caring about this with us. Thank you with all my heart for your prayers. I love & appreciate you all so much. Giant sissy hugs, Your sissy, Marlene
Here are some of the pics we took when we had our visit with the kids on April 27th. We had a wonderful time. Please keep us all in your prayers, we are not through battling Cindy in court and she is still pulling new things to try to stop us all from having a relationship with the kids. Please pray for her and her family also that they get the help they need. Adam has got a good job now and he is doing very well. He just wants to have his kids back in his life and Cindy is bound and determined for that not to happen. On April 26th he visited with Sami for an hour and she was shy but very talkative. She talked about dancing and singing and her toys. They has a very pleasant visit. Adam asked her if there was anything she wanted that she didn't have and she gave him a short list. Last Friday he went to see her and he waited for over 30 minutes before the woman who runs the Tree House where he goes to see Sami comes in and apologizes to him. She said she had been in a room with Sami for over half an hour trying to calm her down because she was convinced Adam was going to kidnap her. I wonder where that came from? One week she is fine and the next week hysterical. CINDY!!!! So we are contacting Adam's lawyer tomorrow (Today-May5th) and trying to get an Emergency hearing with the judge. Cindy has got to be stopped and ordered Psychiatric Care or we will never have the kids back in our lives where they belong. She has alienated Austin so bad with lies about his dad that he won't even see Adam. Adam wants to see his children through a therapist because he knows it will take a long time to undo the damage Cindy has done to these poor children. When we had them over to our house on the 27th Austin told us he isn't allowed to talk about Adam. And he calls him Adam not dad or his father. Adam's visit with Sami on the 26th was videotaped so the judge will see that Sami was not afraid of Adam on their first visit. So someone scared her in that following week. And we are going to get transcripts from March 31 when Adam's lawyer presented evidence of lies Cindy has told in the courts and in seeking medical care for Austin. The adoption court judge heard the case that day, we need to see the Civil Court Judge over what Cindy is doing to the kids mentally and emotionally. Please keep us in your prayers. We have a big battle on our hands and our grandchildren are the victims that need saving. Love, Di Austin & Sami "Then"   Austin & Sami "Now" Sami (with Austin in the background with his Uncle Jimmy) Sami with her Uncle Jimmy playing in Diane's rock garden Austin outside coloring and With his sister and Auntie Colly (Colleen) |
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| | | From: Aalie- | Sent: 5/5/2008 4:22 PM |
| Sissy...I am also continuing my prayers for this family. How tragic..but many times one parent will do this to try to get even with the other parent. They do not realize the damage they do to the kids in the process. it is a sad situation..but God is still able and nothing is too hard for Him! |
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Having been through a divorce, though not as bitter as the one you describe here. Though my children are now adults I have not seen my son & two daughters since 2000. I wasn't invited to my daughter's weddings and my son I learned wants nothing top do with me and I can't find out why. Two years ago this coming Father's Day I received an e-mail from my youngest daughter who lives on the East Coast stating she had been looking for me for two years. She told me her oldest sister and brother have stated they want no contact with me. My youngest daughter and I still keep in contact with each other. Its sad but my ex-inlaws & ex-wife have done a lot of damage. So I do understand to some degree what you all are experiencing. Yet one must be thankful for what we do have. My prayers are with you you and your family. skypilot |
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