I'm putting this here cos maybe when i read over it ..i will be able to see some sense? 
I have a best mate who basicly befriended me when i 1st went back to the hospital to work........she made alot of effort to become a friend and we seemed to have alot in common with work and how we felt about things in the world in general. She has 2 kids the same as me but she was just out of a relationship with the father of the kids. She was so supportive when i had a run of deaths in my family sending kind texts.
We spent alot of time together.......i only had Lauren to start with.......we went out to pubs together and really had some good times.
She suffered with depression and took an overdose about one and a half years ago......i sat with her all night and into the next day in A+E.
I have tried to support her as much as i can.......lent her money when she has been short......had her round with the kids for tea......been round in an evening to keep her company.....(which did put hubby's nose out of joint!)....she would never let me help out by having the kids though.....saying she could manage on her own.
She has in turn been supportive to me......she has helped out looking after the kids when hubby had lessons on and i needed to sleep for work ......brought takeout round when i have been working a long stretch of nights to save me cooking.......she has given me loads of support through my post-natal depression.......she was the one who changed ethans nappy when i just couldn't even be bothered!
She knew about my affair with dave......and has often said that if i wasn't happy with chris to leave.
After me seeing dave for 1 year.......she was drunk one night and rand his other half and nearly told her that dave and i were seeing each other.....it was after that , that dave and i took a break from seeing each other.
Then a year last april we all saw each other out at a gig......and without me knowing clare went and told dave i still loved him........she really encouraged us to get together again.
Being wary of the time before i didn't tell her how often i saw him.
Now since it's all come out she is being totally different.......she is getting upset at me moving 5 mins down the road........saying that me andher and our kids won't get to see each other as much....despite me reassuring her differently.
She has also recently admitted a drink problem to me......5-16 cans of lager a day! It's when she has had a load to drink that she really starts on me......but during this time of me splitting with hubby she has even taken his side on some points.
I just don't feel like she is acting like a friend to me any more.
She doesn't seem happy for me........just making comments like i have landed on my feet yet again!
last week she yet again treatened my relationship with dave by saying that she would tell him about other relationships i have had........thing is he knows!.
I just feel so saddened by it all........now she can't get at me as much she is using the kids......saying ethan is turning into a spoilt brat and that i'm too hard on lauren........you know like she may as well say i'm a crap mum!
She has had a go at me saying that one of her boyfriends was only going out with her to try and get to me........oh and now apparently her daughter has said she wants me as her mum.......I have no control over what other people say to her!
I know she has very little if any self respect right now......she thinks she is no good.....despite me telling her her good points. I have tried to get her to get help with counselling but she refuses.
I have cared alot for this person for 4 years and now just when i could do with her support she seems to be making things harder for me. It feels like every oportunity she is putting me down or making me feel bad for my choices.
Is this really a best friend?
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She certainly does seem jealous of the relationships you have with others, she sounds as though she has problems that she has to sort out, you know that already. A best friend in my eyes is there for you no matter what, through thick and thin, it doesn't seem like that to me at the moment. Hope she can get it sorted, keep ya chin up, try not to let it get you down, you've had enough to cope with lately, take care
She's ill Ang... and it gotta hurt her when her daughter told her she preffered if you were her mum 
It's not
and thats creating a vicious circle, you've had good times in the past 
and there is as many definations of friendship as grains of sand. it's not all plain sailing and happy times, there's bad ones too, if you can find a way through this, difficult for you at the moment because she's being spiteful... but you can have a very strong friendship at the end of it. It's for you to decide if its worth it or not.
but glad you could see what I meant, I wanted to say more but it would have turned into an essay 
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