If you didn't like your child's boyfriend, or girlfriend. Would you tell them? Would you just hope the relationship would just phase out? Would you forbid them from seeing each other?
Well forbidding wouldnt work cos that'd just make them more determined. I'm lucky I get on really well with Lollie's b/friend.
I guess if I really took a dislike to a b/f or g/f of one of my kids I'd have to shut up and put up and hope it fizzled out, unless I had a really good reason for the dislike, like I knew they were into something bad, and then I'd have a serious talk to Lollie or Grant and see how it went from there.
I would hope it fizzled out, I think putting your foot down could have disasterous results. But if the person was really dodgy and i felt that my kids would be at risk by the association, i would do my darndest to put a stop to it.
My 14 year ols daughter recently aroused the attention of o 17 yr old boy. I allowed her to see him, but with very strict cerfews and rules, I spoke with his mother if they were going to his house to ensure she was there. My husband was horrified I allowed the relationship at all. After a month the whole thing was over....he was "too imature" for her. I would rather my daughter was open and honest with me about who she wants to "see" , than go behind my back and be secretive....you need to have an open relationship with your kids so they can tell you anything . I work to have a very close relationship with my daughter
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