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I think all our kids go through this stage in school, and it absolutley breaks your heart  when my kids were small, my sil told me to give them a skipping rope, and the other girls being fickle, wanted to play with my daughter. Or you could speak to the teacher, they do recognise this problem, and have ways of getting all the girls to play together, I'm sure mumsie could advise you on this  You will have a lot of heart-ache, there's no point in lying  Girls can be very hurtful, but in the mean time be thankfull she has you and her sisters   she will eventually find a great friend  ((Hugs)) |
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Oh Noel thats so sad poor little lamb, i hope she does make some friends soon, i know Peter found it difficult to make friends he is very outgoing and vivacious attitude but most of the kids he was with in infants were all oh my pc or oh my ps2, he had them but wasnt interested in sitting all the time like them he was like we were as kids and wanted to be out exploring all the healthy stuff climbing trees footy things like that so they ostrosised him to a great extent until his birthday and then the invites to tea flooded in cos we had a climbing frame and tunnels  etcetc (I know I know )so of course they wanted to share, I think I was going bankrupt by the end of year 2 lol just keep doing what you are doing keeping it low key and maybe do a tea party for her and her sister before they break up for summer and see how that goes you will be able to monitor how she is and they are with each other kids love parties as we all know maybe give it a theme of whatever is the in thing right now good luck and hugs to you both Love Poll xoxox |
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Oh hun, this is a heartbreaker I know, I've been there with Grant. No one at school wanted to play with him, he didnt want to ask anyone to tea, or partys etc, cos he didnt have any real friends. It cuts like a knife doesnt it.  I have no real advice, except to chat to her teacher, who may be able to 'engineer' groups to work together etc, in the hope that friendships will blossom. I did this with Grant's teacher. Made sure he knew that he was always welcome to ask to have someone to tea etc. I've come to the conclusion that some kids just dont make friends that easily but that it comes with time. Grant seems to have lots of mates at the moment and theres always someone hes asking to have round the last few weeks or so. We're even planning a summer hols sleepover for several of them, so hopefully hes coming in to his own now. Aoife will too hun, it may just happen more slowly than you'd like for her. |
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Awwww, poor little love. She must feel quite lonely sometimes. I think the teachers really should be doing more to encourage her to make friends....children can be thoughtless sometimes, and don't really think anything of leaving another child out of things as long as they're OK. You could ask her if she has anyone in her class that she really likes, and suggest that she has them over one evening....if there's only the 2 of them, it will be easier for them to make friends without the distraction of the rest of the class. I hope she does find a classmate soon, after all, it must break your heart to see your little one doing everything alone. How about the 2 of you have a chat, and see if you can spot any other problems, like has she fallen out with any of the girls at school? (((Aoife))) Lou xxx |
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| | From:  ghaens | Sent: 6/24/2004 5:43 PM |
Cheers girls, she is changing teachers this year and her new teacher's brother is a good friend to Gary so he knows her quite well, which is a bonus... I'll talk to her between now and then about my worries... |
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Oh no how awful for you both. I would feel like not sending my child to school. Kids can be so horrible. Isaac has been picked on and he is terribly popular and that broke my heart. I would be in pieces if it was my child. I hope that things can improve for her. Maybe they are jealous as you said she is liked by the teacher and is confident. Maybe you should try the skipping rope thing. |
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| | | From: Nić | Sent: 6/25/2004 12:20 PM |
Its so heart breaking isnt it I still worry about Harry making friends with the Spanish in his class, I dont think he has loads but seems to be fine....I hope next year will bring some changes.... I did notice at Harrys UK school that the girls were alot more horrible than the boys |
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| | | From: rowanz | Sent: 6/25/2004 8:10 PM |
I can fully understand whats happening as Jennifer (year 3) is having the same problem. She is being victimised and bullied too. It breaks my heart too to see it all and I try to give her tips and ways to get around it all. I went to her teacher (who was aware of it and was sorting it out in the class) but it was in the playground that was happening. I am considering talking to the mother of the ringleader who Im sure is totally unaware of her little darlings behaviour! I have told Jennifer that it is really good to play with lots of friends from the day dot and because she has blond hair, does jazz ballet etc I think this girl is jealous...girls are particularly nasty. (boys too as my son went through it too until he decided to go off and find other friends). I hope the new school year brings a friend for Aoife, Noel. Big hugs from me Delys |
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Aww, noe, I can sympathise, hun, as I've had the same probs with Rosie. I went in loads to talk to the teacher and even saw the head master about it. The teacher put Rosie with several children before she found the right one she clicked with. It really is up to your teacher to ensure your child is happy in school, so just keep going in until its sorted. Rosie has a best friend now, but it took ages to find her! Hope Aoife finds friendship soon. |
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| | | From: ghaens | Sent: 6/27/2004 9:58 AM |
Cheers girls.... again... They are finishing up on Wednesday... so I'll chat to her new teacher about it... |
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My son is very similar. He finds it hard to make friends even though he is quite well liked he doesnt tend to have many of his own friends, so its nice to know that he isnt the only one. I was begining to worry a bit about him ( hes 12 next month) but after reading the posts i quess hes normallish. Lisa |
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I hope that Aoife is happier now, and that things have improved for her. Love from Ladybird xxx. |
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Hi ghaens, how so much the same our kids are and my self.... my son now 16 never had too many friends, no birthday party's, not one growing up, i cried buckets for him, he is quite shy and it was hard for him to make friends, even at 16 he has only a few, but good ones, so that is good... My 7 yeat old daughter is very out going and a happy kid, but only a few times this summer vacation did she see any one from school..she hangs with her bro alot and her dad alot... She has gone to only a few birthday party's also, but it seems to bug me more then her;) I odont care if she is popular just have a few little friends to play with, oyyy, being a parent;), loree:) |
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