Over the years i have noticed a phenonimum, among abuse survivors.....it has frquently been said to me " everything is going well, yet, i have this uneasy feel why?" I have reached a hypothesis on this problem, to me , when we suffer abuse , either during childhood or young adulthood ,we become .....used ....to a feeling of drama...hightened fears, tension , anxuiety. If , this goes on long enough i believe ,the drama situation, can and does effect our metabolism, our adrenalin levels get "set" on high....especialy when the abuse goes on for a long time. So , when perhaps , many years later, we are in a much better life situation, every now and then, we become aware of feeling uneasy..... so often , this is when things are going well......but.......our "mind set" is geared for drama, so tranquilty apears strange even odd. Often, this "effect" of abuse causes us more problems, we may indulge in , affairs, spending sprees, arguments, ect; simply because the "element" of drama is missing from our lives. But , we can overcome this , how ? 1stly by accepting that we do need a drama situation, because we were programmed to it, by acceptance comes realisation, it,s ok to be calm, it,s safe to expect things to be fine. We finaly let go , let life be........good. Rusty |
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