To me abuse is about an inequality of power within relationships. I can help you by my experiences. I believe, we are all born connected, to a divine source. This gives us a joining with a fantastic source of power and energy, this leads to our right to choose.
An abuser to me, does not feel this, or chooses not to. Instead of "right acting" that is by doing no harm~~~the abuser gains power and dominion over another. The methods he/she adopts vary, sometimes a punch, at others hurtful words, any way that de-values an others identity, or "self belief" and therefore gains power over the other person in the interaction.
Women, who suffer abuse, to me, are so often strong, they are the "copers" of this World. BUT the problem here is, we give more power to abusers, simply because we accept all they tell us we do / say / think is wrong with us. This leads us deeper and deeper into levels of low self esteem. Until finally we believe, what we have been programmed into thinking our self image is what the abuser wishes us to feel. We carry guilt, we are not as good as "other" women, else why would we be treated so? this becomes our "mind set". So we hide in secrecy.
SECRECY, how often? do we trip on the stairs" to explain a blow, how often are we afraid to ask any one in ? "they might not approve".
For me the answer was "coming out" breaking the shell of secrecy, the realisation, " I could not cope alone" giving into a divine force, in short "I told". For by not doing so we rob our friends/friend of the right to share. When ," you come out" you need to be in a place of safety. We hope that is in this room. When you do this, by sharing, a light comes on, it is like pulling back the curtains in a dark scary room. This you are free to do here now, in this room. Step into the light�? love, Rusty
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