SOMEONE ASKED TODAY , WHERE DO ABUSERS COME FROM ?WELL SPEAKING FOR MYSELF , I FEEL IT,S LIKE THIS. ABUSERS , ARE POWER ATTENTION SEEKERS, THEY NEED TO FEEL IN CONTROL OF OTHERS , (THIS SPRINGS OFTEN FROM CYCLES WITHIN FAMILIES, PLUS INBORN INSECURITY) TRY TO STAND OUTSIDE VIEW A ABUSER OBJECTIVELY, (HARD I KNOW) WHAT POSITION DID THEY HOLD IN THEIR FAMILY? WERE THEY MADE TO FEEL "SPECIAL" DID THEY SUFFER ABUSE?NOW WHY DID THEY GET DRAWN TO YOU ? I WOULD PUT MONEY ON IT , LOL , THAT YOU ARE A KIND CARING SENSATIVE PERSON, IN OTHER WORDS , JUST THE SORT TO BE EASILY CONTROLED, IF I,M RIGHT, TRY NOW TO SEE THAT ALTHOUGH IT HURT LIE HELL, THE ABUSER , IN A SENSE GAVE YOU A GIFT, (OK I KNOW , YOUR SAYING WHAT??) LOL, YET THINK, WHAT LESSONS DID YOU LEARN FROM THE ABUSER?IF YOUR BRIGHT , I KNOW YOU ARE, YOU LEARNT ABUSE DOES NOT WORK, IT DEBASES 2 PEOPLE , THE ABUSED , AND ULTIMATELY THE ABUSER..... BUT..... THE GREATEST GIFT THE ABUSER GAVE YOU.... IS YOUR CHANCE TO BREAK THE CYCLE OF ABUSE, BY ENSURING YOUR CHILDREN , LEARN THE CORRECT WAY TO LIVE, IS IN A NONJUDGEMENTAL MANNER, IN A TRULY LOVING WAY, OH , WHAT A OPPURTUNITY FOR THE FUTURE.RUSTY |