IF YOU HAVE LIVED WITH ABUSE FOR A LONG TIME , IT CAN BECOME A "MIND SET" SO IF ANYTHING GOES WRONG, YOU AUTOMATICALY THINK , "OH DEAR I SHOULD NOT /SHOULD HAVE DONE THIS THAT OR THE OTHER, IF THIS IS HAPPENING TO YOU, .......STOP.... WHEN YOU HEAR YOURSELF ASKING THESE QUESTIONS, REMEMBER ...BEING ADULT MEANS MAKING MISTAKES , AND LEARNING FROM THEM,TAKING RESPONSABILITY, SAYING " OK I MESSED UP" BUT I HAVE LEARNT ANOTHER LESSON, .....PLEASE .... DO NOT... BEAT YOURSELF UP, MAKING MISTAKES IS A HUMAN CONDITION, THE PEOPLE WHO SHOULD WORRY , ARE THE ONES WHO THINK THEY NEVER MAKE MISTAKES, IF THEY HAVE PROBLEMS , IT,S SOMEONE ELSES FAULT, LOL RING ANY BELLS ? MOST ABUSERS HAVE THIS PROBLEM BIG TIME!!! SO ACCEPT MISTAKES AS LEARNING STEPS, ALL ... HUMANS MAKE MISTAKES DON,T BEAT YOURSELF UP. |