If a woman is not listening to her emotions or putting the enemys face on her husband, and if she is sensitive to the constant proddings and reassurances of the Holy Spirit, then day to day, when she shows her husband the servant attitude along with respecting him and letting her children see her Godly attitude in the face of persecution, she will not only be blessed, but her submission will honor God. There was a time when God had instructed me to keep serving, blessing and loving my husband but not to sit down and eat with him. I buttered his bread, and kept serving him and the boys saw me showing him respect even when he was very abusive. I waited for the constant regular instructions from the Lord and when I sensed danger, I trusted our lives to God. For years I have gone to the spouse abuse center and most of the young women that come there are abusing their husbands, being aggressive and yet portraying themselves to be this little helpless victim. I never ever let myself do two things. Blame my husband and put him in jail, and two, I never thought of myself as a victim. I knew my husband was under conviction and the nicer I was, the meaner he was going to get also. God never takes away our will. I waited on God to let me know when He had done His mercy's work and when it got down towards the end, God was protecting us from being killed when He moved in getting us away from him. Yes, my hip was smashed, and yes, I had to protect my sons from him, but the interesting thing is this. I raised my boys alone and my youngest never lived with him and yet even though I raised him in a Christian home, my son is exactly like his Dad and two of my sons have hurt me. My husband could sit in the front pew on Sunday and sing power in the blood and then get drunk and cock his gun over my head. This is not just a non Christian thing. Fourteen years went by when I married a minister and submitted also to him as unto the Lord and within two years, he was doing the same thing only being unfaithful and left me divorcing me in less then six weeks.
Abuse will cause God to allow a way of escape as long as you do not let emotions fog your thinking and trust yourself to God, He will make a way of escape. Just do not stay a victim, be bitter, unforgiving or think "YOU" have to do something! Wait on the Lord Christian or not. I still made love to my husband when ever he wanted me. I still served him and after he divorced me, I cooked the entire thanksgiving dinner and brought the boys up to his house, he kept the house, and they had dinner while I fed people at the nursing home. Bless those who persecute you and keep being a blessing whether you have to leave or not leave a unbeliever or a Christian ok? God did not have to forgive me for leaving, for divorcing or for any part of all I went through because His mercy was holding out for my husband and still is today. We are often victims of someone else's sin, but the odd thing is? We often are the only ones who "feel" guilty and accept condemnation.
I have never been sorry I knelt down and rubbed my husbands feet when he hurt me, and I think of Jesus and how much he loves these miserable souls and I am thankful HE has mercy... cause it triumphs over judgment.
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