It is sad, but, true that some people do blame God when they loose someone they love...but, we have to remember that God is not to blame....it is not His fault. And, He knows exactly how we feel....He knows the pain of loosing a child also.....He lost his only son. After my son died...it was my faith that kept me going. I pray that your husband finds that kind of faith....for without it....there is no peace.
I will keep you, and your husband in my prayers.
Love and hugs.....Rean