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| | From:  AngelineRose (Original Message) | Sent: 8/13/2004 1:14 PM |
As I sit here i'm feeling totally crap about myself. Yes i had a stupid fling .....a one nighter 7 years ago........yes it was stupid of me to get his mother a job at the same place as the place i met the bloke it happened with ....and of course she has found out and i am now the worst person ever in the world. I'm getting told nearly daily how awful that mistake was.......how his family had an idea 2 years ago and thats why they were off with me. I'm not asking for a sympathy vote here......i made my mistakes and i have to face the consequences.......but i have been paying for this one for years already.......it was nothing like me having the affair with dave and falling in love......it was purly an attention thing at the time when chris and i were in a bad patch..........yeah i know ..not really an excuse.....i'm so sorry for that one and how it's hurt everyone.......i just can't seem to say sorry enough. My so called best mate is making things hard for me too .....giving me greif for moving 5 mins down the road and saying how we won't see each other the same ......even though i have tried to reassure her. i'm just not feeling very proud of myself right now........i wish i had never married chris and then i wouldn't of hurt/upset so many people. All his family hate me........he told me they couldn't stomach being in the same room as me. They never saw how he spoke down to me for 11 years and managed to make me feel like a 2nd class citizen for most of the time. I lost weight and tried to keep myself looking as best i could but still he would ignore me. But he says thats no excuse and it's all my fault. I'm just so tired of raking over the past now...........but he insists it has to be done to move on. For the 1st time in my life i'm making a choice for me.......not what i think i should do ....but what i would really like to do. It's so hard.........it seems like i have so much against me right now. |
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Awww Ang I have read this 3 or 4 times trying to make sense of it  am I right in saying Chris is your husband and you had a one night stand whilst married to him, now the fella you had the fling with has told your MIL? If this is right, how many people are in you marriage?  they're behaving like your judge jury and executioner, look hun the marriage is over, they should get over it too, and stop thinking the sun shines outa his @ss. I think your friend may be a little jealous, what with you starting a new life, is she married or in a long term relationship? I could be barking up the fooking wrong tree  Once your settled and the friendship continues she'll see you were right But I consider you a friend, and I know how low you are right now with everyone at you from all quarters  stick to your guns, and keep everything on track... happiness is just around the corner for you, keep it in your sights  |
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| | | From: LINN1E | Sent: 8/13/2004 3:23 PM |
Awww hun, everyone makes mistakes, no-one is perfect, so don't feel bad about yourself, put things into perspective. Since that one night stand 7 years ago, you and Chris went on to have 2 children, surely that meant something?, as for his family, you say they had an idea 2 years ago about this and that's why they were off with you, but before now you've said they always treated you badly, so that's just an excuse they're using!. As for your friend, she should be happy for you no matter what you do, surely it's better to see someone whose happy with their life, rather than somebody who's unhappy and moping?, and I agree with Day, sounds like she's either jealous of you or just lonely!. Hope you feel better about yourself soon hun. (((((((((hugs))))))))) Linnie xxx |
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If it was me I would get my soon to be ex MIL (YIPPEE) and tell her to get a life you nolonger have to answer to her or any of ehr family if you had had sense you would never have married Chris and the reason you have gone is his hateful put down ways and you are sick of wiping the breast milk off his chin see if she likes the boot on the other foot she may be jealous or maybe you have hit a raw nerve for her has she not been faithful and feels a little bit hot under the collar for her misdemenours (sp) you never know as putting the spot light on you keeps it well off her Hugs to you and happiness to come with your new man  Love Poll xoxox theres alweays the other top of ya lungs option to just tell her to ............... Feck Off   |
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Thanks for all your replies. I haven't seen or spoken to his family in weeks and don't intend to. My friend is not in a relationship right now......and has told me she is scared of loosing me.......i told her if i got any more grief then she would! I never imagined doing this would be easy.........but having to rake over old stuff is awful. I told chris today i didn't want to do it anymore...........he said we have to ...to get closure on stuff! I told him he can go do it with someone else.......i'm not being made to feel bad anymore! |
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Oh Ang, there's not a lot more I can say that everyone hasn't already said. You need to put yourself and the kids first for once, do what you want to do!!! I really do hope it all straightens out for you very soon and you can start building your new life. Big hugs to you mate. |
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Ang I'm sorry your still feeling so bad. You dont owe anyone but yourself and your kids anything. If Chris needs closure, tell to get himself a counciller, you have told him how you feel and why, and where things stand, thats all you owed him. He has no right to go raking over old stuff. Is there anyway you can move in with Dave earlier. Sounds like now is the time to move out, and let Chris and his family sort their owns lives out. Hope you get out and get your new life moving soon. xx |
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i most probably missed a bit being away from what i read you and chris are not together this one night stand happened 7 years ago if he hasnt got closure after that length of time then it is his problem you cant be blamed for ever and besides if you had been happy at home the fling wouldnt of happened it about time he grew up and took some responsibility for what happened i hope things settle down for you ang love eelie |
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poor Angeline...................your not having a good time are you hun it doesnt help working with the MIL .........you cant exactly get away from her winging But she has to realise her son played a part in all this and not just you...................everything shouldnt have to be all your fault and on your head . She is only getting his side of things and believeing every word instead of taking both sides and excepting the split . Dont feel bad hun everything is still to raw and everyones blamming each other things will get better but in time If you have disscussed everything with Chris then there is nothing else to say......except when it comes to the children...........i dont think he can except clossure and keeps dragging things up................ but eventully he will in time .......................and thats all it is down to .......................time. Get yourself together hun and get strong ...................you made a mistake 7 years ago ...................but that was 7 years ago......... no point dragging it up now ..................you have suffered enough over all this................. Get strong hun and gather your thoughts .................and some day you will become that strong woman you want to be hugs to you  and take care |
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