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Hello! I am new here. I think i might have left a msg on the wrong board. I was a bit confused with all the different boards! I love the graphics used on teh site. Anyway, my story: I am not bi-polar, but my mother is. she has schizophrenia (sp) with it also. I am 28 yrs old and married with one daughter. i moved away from mom because she was so dependent on me and i had to have my own life. she still has these horrible mood swings and tries to call me very often. she is due in next week for a visit for about 10 days. she doesn't seem right. I end up getting frustrated with her and i dont' mean to. I really don't understand her and would love to. there were many times as a teen, i drove her to the er because she could nto get out of bed, or was going to hurt herself. I love her dearly and long for the mother/daughter reationship most people want. the littlest th ings can set her off so she is in a weird mood for a few weeks. any advice would be great! i want all of us to have a nice visit. graceful |
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| | From: Rain7s1 | Sent: 7/5/2004 10:43 PM |
(((((Graceful))))) Your story reminds me of mysef and my daughter. The only advice I know is to try your very best to accept her as she is. She is still your mother. Bipolar is just an illness she has. And learn everything you can about the disorder. Read the information, post, go to chat and talk about it. You seem like a real caring and kind daughter. I hope and pray that all goes well with your visit. Love and hugs, Rain. |
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Rain~ thank you. i am glad i am not alone. as i am learning, it is hard for the others as well as those suffering with this. the hardest part was when i had to tell her she can't see my daughter on certain days. sometiems she seems like she is in a trance and i could not let my daughter visit with her. (she would not talk to me for almost a month) i am not sure what makes her go from one extreme to another. she seems to dwell on teh past a lot. i am trying to read up on it as much as possible. the hardest part is when she puts me down (even though i am sure she is really not doing it to hurt me) she will just say mean things to me. (i have fertility problems and she keeps telling me how horrible that my daughter is alone) things like that, she will call me up on the phone to say that. i am really glad i was accepted into this group. this looks like a great place for me to learn more about my mom. graceful ps- how did you mend fences with your daughter rain? |
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((((Graceful)))) I think it's great ya want to learn how to help ya mother. It isn't an easy ilness to live or learn about. But like Rain said read all ya can visit our sister site which is listed under usefulllinks, Janice's Bipolar support Info site. caome join us in posting and in chat all ya wnat to hun. Butterfly Love! Butterfly~Janice |
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| | From: Rain7s1 | Sent: 7/10/2004 7:52 PM |
Graceful, I think you are headed in the right direction when it comes to understanding your Mom. It seems that you are open minded and realize that some of the things she does is the illness and not your Mom. It took my daughter a long time. She was in denial for so long; but I think she finally realized that I would not have done or said some of the things I did if I were not sick. She finally began to see my symptoms when I was getting manic or real depressed. She even sat in on a session or two with me and my pdoc. I had to learn to take responsibility for my actions even though I have this disorder and to take my meds the way I am supposed to. One thing we have not resolved is that she thinks I am on too much medication. She just thinks I would be better off with less meds because of some of the side effects. She also doesn't like it when I'm not up to par for family events because of my bipolar. But I'm doing a lot better in that area. It just takes time and understanding and that will come for you and your Mom if you are patient and take it one step at a time. I'm very glad that you joined us and I hope that you learn a lot to help you and your Mom. Hugs and prayers, Rain. |
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((((( Graceful))) Yes you definitely have your hands full with your Mom. You sound very balanced and open minded though you have lived in a world that is not... Hats off to you.. YOU are tuff and a survivor and seem to have a very clear picture of the world. You Mom taking hits at your "fertility" is strictly a control thing..it is beyond her and you...only the docs and the good Lord above have ownership of that. Dont let that bother you....anytime a person tries to take a stab at something very personal to us..is a control or envious stab...Your Mom has been Dx'd...it is really a mixed bag...You being the strong person knowing reality from fantasy knows deep down you are right with what is going on with you.. However us special folks like you Mom can SOMETIMES have great insight without even knowing it....like babes in the woods, sometimes the truth spills out... Its an honor and priviledge knowing you. Keep tuff, weight the options and look at everything logically.... An Angel is by your side. goo |
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