Mummies Forever

Sent: 11/26/2008 12:36 AM

Aww Kel, I was still thinking of you late last night. Hoping B wasn't too bad when he got home.

~Hugs~

Oh Hayles, I hate it when you fight in the car and you can't even get away from them. LOL.

On the topic of giving coke etc to kids. My friend (who's baby shower I'm going to this weekend) has a SIL that has a lil boy who is 2 weeks younger than Ella. Anyway, we were out for dinner with their family a month or two ago and the SIL was there with the lil boy. She gave him FULL Baby BOTTLES of COKE.

And my friends Mum said oh that is nothing, the SIL Mother gives the child rum and beer.

And then my friends Mum was telling my Mum that they now think he has learning problems as he still doesn't speak. Well duh. How can a kid grow up properly having alcohol at 2yrs?

I can't believe how stupid the SIL Mother is.

And the SIL Mother is my friends MIL - and she is so worried that if she turns her back when HER baby is born, that they will feed her baby alcohol too.

Hope that made sense. LoL...

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Sent: 11/26/2008 5:52 AM

hey girls

well I should probly have posted that after I calmed down a bit, I was pretty angry then but you both seemed to have understood anyway.

He really must've known I was peeved right off cos he sure moved his butt! lol

He was back home just after 7pm and no bites on B lucky for Brett! Dont think he had any coke either, its just that the men normally stand around drinking beer or coke and they quite often let B drink from their cans, doesnt bother me if its just a sip but when they let him go and go and go I get annoyed, especially cos Brett doesnt say anything just lets them do it, when I am there tho they seem to say no a lot cos I think they know it annoys me but I bet they do it all the time when I am not there.

Anyway had a bit of an argument with Brett mainly bout not saying bye and not being responsible and taking stuff etc and I think he got it cos then I went to bed without saying goodnight and fell asleep and first thing I woke this morning was Brett kissing me and saying sorry. hehe, glad he got the message!

Hayles, I hate fighting in front of B too, they so pick up on it, even lastnight when I was snapping at Brett when they got home he came up and frowned and said ohh and hugged me, so I try not to cos they understand way too much then we give them credit for!!

oh my gosh bout your friend janna! Thats shocking! Especially bout the rum and beer!!!! AS I did say above I know fil and even Brett has let B sip from their beer and drink from their coke but gosh that is extreme filling baby bottles with it! I must say I have seen this in shops etc before tho, I think some ppl have no idea! Gosh that is just terrible and I dont understand why you would do that.

I should fess up and admit here (hope you girls dont think me a bad mother) that B is allowed a small cup of coke (like half a glass or something) for a treat if we are at a party or out to dinner. I feel really ashamed admitting that now!

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Sent: 11/26/2008 7:29 AM

Glad to hear Brett got the message.

And glad he was home quickly and B had no bites.

No, you are SO NOT a bad mother Kel. Sometimes if we are out and Ella has been good, she has some of my frozen coke. And I swear people just stare. LOL. But she NEVER would get more than a few sips here and there type thing.

But full bottles (and bottles are worse) of coke and alcohol is terrible...

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Sent: 11/26/2008 11:50 AM

Oh good - yay he got the message and he said sorry that awsome. Makes it all better hey?! Nothing worse when they just cant see what they did and don't care or whatever.

Janna that IS terrible! Some people need a kick up the butt!

How could you live with yourself giving alchol?! And to hear he has learning probs GRRR they wouldnt ever admit it could be the alchol though I bet.

Kel you are not bad and don't me ashamed at all. He is going on two and not like you give it to him everyday and in larger amounts.

I don't let my girls drink it as I am always and I mean always having to tell Ali to not give them her coke (she would give them there own whole bottle every time we saw her if I let her. so I can't then give it to them iykwim. Now when ali offers them sips behind my back they say "no we are not allowed ali - they say that alot to her now as they know ali is naughty and I get cranky at heaps of crap she tries to give them. But they have had small amounts of other soft drink - mostly like you janna its when I get a frozen drink - but I get the red fanta ones not coke cause I LOVE red fanta ones - mmmmm frozen red fanta lol.

And YES how much do people stare. When we go to maccas the girls normally get either a cheeseburger or nuggets then share some of my fries and I get them both a cup of water as they are just happy with the fact they have a maccas cup like everyone else but I always see poeple looking as if to say that child wouldnt even be two and that mother is giving her softdrink - I feel like saying "its OK its just water in a maccas cup" lol. When I see something I dont agree with I dont stare!!

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Sent: 11/26/2008 11:10 PM

Yeah I would never admit to giving my child ALCOHOL like they do. Its like they are proud of it. But the Grandmother (who is the main offender) thinks its funny. Problem is she is seriously an alcoholic.

Very sad....

Oh I understand Hayles, soooo frustrating that your sister trys every time. But so adorable that your girls say NO now. hehe. Thats awesome.

I don't get the coke one's often either - especially when I'm preg I prefer the rasberry one's too. LOL. Crazy I know.

Mum had a funny experience when my sister was little, they were at a fancy restaurant with all the family and they took a bottle of maison to have as my parents don't drink. Anyway, as it was a special occassion, Mum put a tiny bit of "maison" into my sisters sippy cup. Well the people at the table near them had a huge fit about it and Mum & Dad thought it was quite amusing as they knew it wasn't alcohol. LOL.

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Sent: 12/13/2008 9:16 AM

I am SO Tired! OMG I could fall asleep right now.

I am only up because Gracie is so naughty at bed tiem lately.

She keeps getting out of bed and talking to Chloe and hloe gets so overtired and I have to disturb her everytime I have to go in there and make Gracie get back into bed. It has been nearly every night for the last week and its driving me crazy.

So much so that tonight the second time she got out of bed I picked her up took her out of the room. Said goodnight to s and c and shut the door.

Then took everything out of Chloe's playpen and put Gracie in it. I said "From now on if you get out of bed you can lay in here on your own".

She has been in there about 40 mins now and is not asleep. She knows she is in huge trouble though and has been very quiet. Every now and then she asks to get out please but I say "NO you can't get out you have to go to sleep" I know if I let her back into her bed she will get out again so she really has to feel the consequences of her actions and I am hoping this drastic measure will work as nothing else has. I have tried calming laying with her in her bed and explaining she can not get out and that Chloe needs to have quiet to go to sleep etc, I have tried giving her a smack on the bottom everytime she gets out, I have tried taking her out of the room and putting her in time out then talking to her and putting her back to bed but she is so determined to be naughty. Gracie hs never been much of a tanty girl really but I think this is going to be her terrible two's - Ignoring me and not listening as she has been doing it so well lately.

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Sent: 12/13/2008 9:37 AM

Well I ended up putting G into er bed about 10 mins ago and she went to sleep straight away.

The 3 of them have been so good up until now so I really hope this stage Gracie is having will pass already lol.

I am off to bed right NOW.

Jake is already in bed.

Hope I get a good sleep.

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Sent: 12/17/2008 3:39 AM

Well my whinge is that I keep getting headaches at work.

We think it has something to do with the angle of the screen and also the glare as we are right by a window and there is no blind/shade or anything...

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Sent: 12/22/2008 1:33 AM

okay I have a big whinge....

My Mum and sister have totally pi$$ed me right off today!!! Like I was soo wild over it and then had a bit of a tear and thought no really kel, what do you expect??

I will explain...

My cousin who is the mother to my 2nd cousin with the baby that she doesnt look after...

wanted to meet us all for Christmas on Wednesday cos we wont be seeing them Christmas day at all. So anyway cousin apparently text my sister yesterday to ask if it could be done today instead of Wednesday cos she has to bring her daughter into town on Wednesday. (thats the one with the baby)

Well Mum started bitching to me about that and saying, Kylee (sis) is busy getting the kids needles and isnt having it at her place so might just go to this little cafe. (the cafe is too small, its in a hardware store and not appropriate for 5 kids from one fam, 4 from another and then B aswell all running amok and unwrapping pressies etc in) so I said I wont be going if its there. Then Mum started bitching saying how my cousin with the baby just says 'jump' and everyone must say 'how high?'

I ignored this cos I was like HELLOOOOOOO, have you looked at your own life and your daughter cos that is definitely the pot calling the kettle black! I didnt say that but wish I had of had the guts to, only mum gets upset and starts crying if we start putting Kylee down.

So Mum said she would ring me this morn and let me know and I wait till 9am and she still hasnt rung so I rang her and Dad said she had already left to go to my sisters....hmm typical.

So I rang there and my sister answers all groggy and I said 'what are you doing?' and she goes 'oh I just got out of bed' - like wtf? You have 4 kids under 9 yrs old, how the heck can you be in bed?? I said well I have been up for hours and she goes oh yeh but I went to bed at 1.30am and you probly had hours of sleep before me.

weirdo...

anyway I asked for Mum and she came on and I asked where they were going and she goes oh um.....big pause.....then I hear my sister in the background and then Mum goes 'porters (the cafe) at 2.30'

So I said well I cant come then, for a start I dont think that is an appropriate place to do what you are doing and that is B's sleep time.

I think by the tone of my voice she would've realised I was pissed off about that.

So then the bitching about my cousin, the 2nd cousin and the baby all started again, and I honestly am sooooo sick of listening to the pair of them bitch about them - cos FFS - look a little closer to home, this is exactly how my sister is and treats my Mum and everyone and they are both blind to that, well obviously sis would be but gosh is my Mum 'that' stupid????? come on, its so pathetic.

So i just kinda interupted her and said anyway thats all I wanted to know so I am going now bye, and hung straight up on her. I know thats not nice and I love Mum, she does a lot for me but nowhere near what she does for my sister and her kids. And for her to sit there and bitch about others that are exactly the same just sickens me!

I am so sick of not being able to rely on my Mum, cos anytime you talk to her or need her she is pre-booked and pre-occupied by my sister. I am so over it.

If you cant rely on your Mum who can you rely on you know?

She briefly asked how B was and I said oh we are having some issues today but she didnt even ask what!!!!? I was so upset when I got off the phone but I guess I should know better by now!

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Sent: 12/22/2008 2:28 AM

Awww Kel.

Big hugs to you.

I can kinda understand how you feel with your sister. My sister is causing all sorts of drama's at the moment too.

I really hope that your Mum wakes up sooner than later and see's your sister how everyone else see's her.

~Hugs~

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Sent: 12/27/2008 12:36 AM

Oh Kel how grr and annoying. I know exactly what you mean.

My mum does a similar type of thing - when she hears about God forbid someone elses grown child who did something that no mother would be proud of, but nothing major either she looks like whoa wow thats shocking isnt it. But I feel like saying ummm Mum have you taken a look at your own children or at least have you forgotton what they got up to only a few years back??

Its silly how they seem to forget or not realise or just choose to ignore.

Even though we try to be strong and not let situations like this get to us there is always a breaking point where you just can't help it hey?!

Don't mean to make this about me but even though my mum has come a long way with my sister there is still and I recon always will be Clearly different 'rules' my parents both have when it comes to me and the other kids and my sister. for eg. Mel still owes mum and dad thousands of dollars from gosh maybe 10 years ago and over the last 10 years they have lent her more but has she paid them back? NO. But Jake and I once borrowed money from my parents and we had every intention of paying it back asap which we did but I can tell you now they held it over us and made sure we understood we were to pay it back and we even set up a direct debit online from our account to theres so we didnt forget.

Then when I asked mum if she would mind minding Chloe for 6 hrs one day a week she had to first think about it then ask dad and she doesnt have a job at all - hasnt had a job for nearly 30yrs - wouldnt want to interupt her clothes washing day or omg even worse her bathroom cleaning day. Then dad asked mum to ask me if I was going to pay her. I complely ignored that as if I had of opened my mouth I would have blown up as mum minded my sisters son for FIVE years FULLTIME without so much as a cent and my sister treated her like crap the entire time.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

But yes our sisters seem to be able to hold some magic spell over our mothers and they seem to be blinded by there ways.

VERY annoying and upsetting too!

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Sent: 12/27/2008 12:37 AM

Janna that sucks about your headaches.

Have you noticed them gone since you havnt been at work for a bit?

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Sent: 12/27/2008 7:13 AM

ta girls.

Janna I seriously doubt things will ever change to be honest, my Mum will never wake up so to speak so that is just not gonna happen. I am sure at somepoint of her life she may look back and see it for what it was and even probly regret it but I think she just sees it as doing what she has to do.

Hayles its so true, most of the time I just know what its all about and dont let it affect me - just ignore it or turn the other cheek so to speak but your right, there comes a time when you havent let it affect you 'enuf' for awhile and it all gets too much so has to come out.

And as for your story - holey crappy I would be so the same and have been so pissed too! Gosh how ridiculous, such similiar situations we are in tho and I know what you mean by you just wish that you could point it out to them and if you had to you you would I guess as would I but I like to keep the peace.

Janna sorry I didnt reply bout your headaches the other day - I was so angry and wrapped up in myself - how rude of me!! I hope they have improved for you, it would no doubt be the glare on the screen for sure you would think.

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Sent: 12/28/2008 2:39 AM

WELL...I have another big gripe!

I bought Brett and my bro's gf itunes giftcards for Christmas. I got them in fonezone as that was the only place I could find them! The card said it had no value until activated at the time of purchase so I SPECIFICALLY asked the girl who served me - 'so they're activated now, all they have to do is go on the website and enter the codes?' and she said 'yes'

Well we just tried to use Bretts and it came up with a message that the card is not activated and you have to return it to place of purchase!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am sooooooo pissed off cos I wouldnt care so much IF I didnt specifically ask her this!!! What a stupid biatch cos now I have to ring them tomorrow cos they're not open today and go into town when I wasnt going to and get them activated. Not to mention I had to ring my bro's gf and ask for hers back! GRRRRRRRRRRRRR!

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