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From: MSN Nicknamedaggi122  (Original Message)Sent: 4/10/2008 2:30 PM
Since my meeting on Tuesday with the Army Lawyers and my own Lawyers, I am now more in pain and without hope. I am feeling like a criminal maybe I should give up and let the Army win as of right now it seems that I can fight anymore longer. Iam behind my mortgage all my bills, my cridit used to be good and noe slowly the rate will get down.
 Now to my meeting, the Army investigator went early morning to my old job and talk to co workers no one could say something bad about me and thay all got the same story, the meeting took over 4 hrs and I was treated like I did something wrong. They ask me about my marriahe ro my ex what was very bad they ask me about my entire life and that knew alot about me. What has to do my past with my RSD? I has in 2001 female problems and many operations wit serve migranie., they brought this up then they ask me about a car accident many years ago, what I forgot and I said no the next mornng I remembered and called my lawyer and told him but when I had the car accident I was not injured. They said with RSD a lot  of money is involved so they need to investigate more, and also that I need life long care. They also ask me hoe come I did not finsihed my Master's degree I had only 3 semesters left, plus I was cheching out a program for my PHD, well I told them that working full  time and taking night classes got more complicated for me with all the pain. Now I am having trouble with my concentrations so is would be no way I will pull an A or B in my classes. They ask my so many questions and now they still have to investigate more , my lawyer said is can take  at least 6 more months before they come up with an offer/settlement, they also told me that I will be taking care off. I will the offer be will is be enough? I can do it  anymore longer all what I am doing right now is crying and feel like that I am getting punished for what has happens to me in my past and mow with RSD.
I can do it much longer, I need help so my house will not lose my house, calling churches and agencies but nothing I lost all my dignity. I can do it much longer I want my life back I don't want to be treated like an criminal I did do nothing wrong. I feel so helpness. Why Why
 
Daggi122


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From: MSN NicknamefranknberrieSent: 4/10/2008 7:28 PM
Hello Daggi,
 Ill tell you why, its to save the almighty dollar, thats why they are attacking you like that...I went thru the same thing after a work comp related carpal tunnel surgery triggered RSD in my left hand and with in 3 months was in both arms,hands,shoulders and spine! The went back to my home town and tried digging up something from my childhood...when they do that they know they are in trouble, do not give up! When the fight is over you will win, be positive! Your stress level will drop and so will your pain when its over...it was for me! I was so angry when going thru the process I wanted to squish the comp company and their lying lawyer.
Never, never give up! That is exactly what they want and why they are doing what they are doing!
Frank

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From: MSN Nicknameannie570111Sent: 4/10/2008 10:07 PM

My dear,,,, what a pain ,,,,, pain issue on top of all else that certainly not needed.... In no way can you give up or let go... This is certainly all well worth the time invested... And maybe possible issue of another suit of malpractice added on later... I am not certain of that one... certainly hit me brain with the added fight of the bills n loss of more life with home.. Wish that ease for me... Cause I lost everything also... Mine was not WC,,,,  Hmo that paying for all that I dealt with,,, was super great as well as the other policys that I had..  Still not enuf with the bills n meds n more bills that I was having.. well over million dollars in less than 3 yrs. something too think about.... another instance,,,,,, please look at craiglist on net for your area,,, look at rent n sharing there... I am one that is having roommates help pay the bills,,,, in sharing expenses.  Sure is awesome help to keep all going.. Also being able too share experiences really helps in  learning where to go for help n what n whom to get hold of...  Something too deal with... Please know that really really is something too consider too keep from loosing what u do have. Been a life saver too me...  having two roommates,,,,  takes some time.. too get issues worked out.. One is constant  roommate that is also a provider situation for me here.... Important as is disabled also... wishing that possible for to do more than is capable of,,,,,,  what is done is truly a lifesaver n helping in the depressing areas...  So please consider that...... Hope that this helps we can find answers takes time n always takes more than one too get too answers.. huggzzzz                                                       Annie


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From: MSN NicknameTami62Sent: 4/11/2008 12:32 AM
Hi Daggi,
 
I just want to say it is ok to cry and feel the way you do. Sometimes fear gets ahold of us and we have to let it out some how. They are going to put you through a microscope in hopes to find something that caused the RSD besides your accident. They will not be able to prove that since you had no simptoms of RSD before the insedent even if you have had a broken a bone before. Don't give up and don't allow them to take your will to fight them away. They are only trying to wear you down and get you to settle for less or forfeit the fight. I don't own my home so I don't feel that pressure like you do but think about this. It can be replace with a new home and maybe even one you will like better that will accomidate your health needs in the future. Annie wrote to you about sharing your home and living expenses and it is definately worth thinking about. It could make the difference for you and you can always change things again when you settle you case. It does not have to be a perminant situation. Just breath and pray and be patient and check into all the alternatives available to you. I know you have some family staying with you so ask them for help and input to try to find a solution that will work for you for now.
Just don't give up. The Army doesn't really have anything to fight with they are just scrounging in the garbage. They will have to pay up and big.    BELIEVE!!!!
It will work out ok for you in a little more time. When they start makeing you nervous or angry or weak just look at them and give them a smile and a wink and remember that they can not get out of it no matter how hard they try. They are creating more pain and suffering for you which means more money so just let them do what they do and smile.
Much love
Tami62

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From: MSN Nicknametina4evr0Sent: 4/11/2008 1:11 AM
Im so sorry that u are being treated like a victim, workmans comp treated me the same way. I will keep u in my prayers along with everyone else in our group.Basically, this is the kind of games we have to go thru but I believe sometime we shall WIN.The more u stress,the more pain u will fight.I know its hard to keep your head up,I know what you mean about your bills,and etc. But right there in the end something will help you.May GOD BLESS ALL OF US. Your friend ,Tina

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From: MSN Nicknamedaggi122Sent: 4/11/2008 2:28 AM
this is for everyone who wrote back to me after I posted this message. Thank you for all your kind words and you all giving me hope to hold on a little bit longer.
 My hand look like a huge sausage today, all the stress is creating more trouble for me. Why no one understand what RSD  is and trying to pick us apart.
Annie, my daughter lives with me and her 3 children ,one is Autistic. Thanks Tina for your prayers. Tami so are so correct thanks I will keep on fighting even I feel like giving up. Frank what are they trying to do with getting stuff on our childhood, I know they can get nothing on my childhood they have to go back to Germany, but who knows maybe they will. It is a mess, I need to stop crying . I did do nothing wrong, believe me I don't want RSD to control my life, nobody deserves to get treated like we do. Is feels like we get punished for having RSD
 
Thanks we guys are great
 
Daggi

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From: MSN NicknameFireball4303Sent: 4/13/2008 5:44 PM
Boy do I know how you feel Daggi....But no matter what...You've got to keep your chin up....I'm in about the same boat so I am practicing what I preach....I had an IME  almost two week's ago...and just got the report from that IME....and..wow....I was absolutely terrified...I wasn't reading right or anything...I was so upset...In that report they say I'm not healed yet from my fall but that there is no reason why I can't work....The guy signed off with penalty being purgery too....he said that I could stand and or walk for 4 to 6 hours....stated that I could not use my left leg but that I could use my right...after thinking about that....I was like..hahahahahahaaa...now how the hell am I supposed to do that>>?...I haven't been able to talk to my lawyer about it yet...but last week...my new Dr...that I choose...happen's to work for workman's comp too....well...she put on paper about her treating me for RSD....with my symptoms and stuff...blah blah blah....but the letter was for me to try and get out of jury duty....and know what Daggi....the bottom line is....If I'm not healthy enough to go motorcycle riding...or to play pool....to do fun stuff>?....I'm not healthy enough to go to work....so we all have to learn not to give up....crying is one thing...I cry at least 4 times a week...and I try to make it when I'm alone...with myself...cause I realize I'm never alone...I'm alway's with myself....and I must be my own advocate....my own friend....and not to listen to my brain when its obviously lying to me....I have no shame anymore...humility>?...what's that....RSD is quite humbling....Stick to you're guns Daggi....we all must....and we all know....and we all do our best...and that's the best anyone can do.....We love you Daggi.....Hang in there....We believe in you.....Diana

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From: ladojoSent: 4/13/2008 8:50 PM
Diana, Have you had a FCE done? (Functional Capacity Evaluation) The first wc dr. that I was sent to... after treating
me for a few months, mostly just keeping me in pain pills, and
did send me to physical therapy. Sent me to have the fce done.
It last about 4 hours, and it was very difficult for me to complete
but I got through it, just for them to through out that Drs. final evaluation, and the results of the fce. Sent me to a different dr.
that saw me about 20 minutes and said I might have had rsd
earlier on, but there were no signs of it when he saw me. Anyway... we have to keep on fighting all these phonies... and
pray even more.

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From: MSN NicknamecosmicmamaSent: 4/13/2008 10:14 PM
my md has never had a fce because range of motion was never a problem.  He had me with pt almost as soon as I could start, and it was just baby steps at first,  I have great tone and at times feel strong, but others when despite muscle development, I get weak holding my arms out my sides.w/c is opening my case, and I don't think there is any way I can win this battle.  If I am in a pain cyc won't allow, but there may be no choice.  A few minutes of my gardening on video is nothing I am ashamed of, but w/c and judges see it a lot differently.  There are logs showing  days  that I did nothing but, but I will be put in a position requiring me to defend myself.
 
I knw my life can change in a heartbeat and someday I could be seriously battling rsd on a diffrent level if I don't keep the best body that I can have now, I may not be as strong for a greater battle.


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From: MSN Nicknamedaggi122Sent: 4/14/2008 12:49 PM
I am so sorry Diana for you what you have to endure. Is looks like that almost everyone who lives with RSD get treated like we are liars and have to fight to win. You seems to be a very strong woman, myself I used to be very strong but now I am so ready to give up on myself. I don't like the person I am now it is not me . Don't know how much longer I can take it.
Daggi

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From: MSN NicknamefranknberrieSent: 4/15/2008 7:07 PM
Daggi122,
 Every thing you mentioned is symptoms are RSD, I feel the same way some days. A month ago I was in the hospital with a body full of blood clots, bilateral pulmonary ambolism(blood clots in both lungs) and deep vein tromosis (blood clot in the main vein in your inner right leg)in my right leg where the clot come from, all I did to bring this on was slightly hyper exten my knee...I almost died,and when I was thinking about how close I was to death I didnt want any part of that, makes me feel like putting up with RSD for 8 years in my arms and hands  easy....You "CAN" put up with it for a long time...a real long time. Really try to do something to get your mind off your illness, try hard to accept it for what it is and just do your best to do your best. You can do it!
Franknberrie

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