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From: MSN NicknameLadyinKansas2  (Original Message)Sent: 9/30/2005 12:07 AM

Types of Stalkers

Rejected Stalker Resentful Stalker Predatory Stalker Intimacy Seeker Incompetent Suitor Erotomaniac & Morbidly Infatuated

This portion of the article is devoted to providing more information about stalkers. All of the information presented here has been compiled from scientific research conducted in Texas and is supplemented by research conducted elsewhere in the United States, Europe, and Australia.
Stalkers can be put into a number of different categories based on the motivation of their stalking behavior. Any individual stalker may or may not fit neatly into the categories presented here. The pages that follow are intended to give stalking victims more information on the typical motivations, personality characteristics, and behaviors of different types of stalkers. Furthermore, this portion of the site gives women knowledge that they can use to prevent the negative consequences of stalking and better predict the behaviors of a stalker.

Types of Stalkers

Rejected Stalker Resentful Stalker Predatory Stalker Intimacy Seeker Incompetent Suitor Erotomaniac & Morbidly Infatuated

Rejected Stalker:

Motivation
(a) Begins to stalk after their partner (romantic or close friendship) has ended their relationship or indicates that he or she intends to end the relationship.
(b) Wants to be in a relationship with the victim again or seek revenge on the victim. The stalker's goals may vary, depending on the responses of the victim.
Personality
(a) May have high levels of these personality characteristics:
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narcissism
-
jealousy
(b) May have:
- feelings of humiliation
- over-dependence
- poor social skills and a resulting poor social network
Stalking Behaviors
(a) Is often the most persistent and intrusive type of stalker.
(b) Is most likely to employ intimidation and assault in pursuit of their victim. A history of violence in the relationship with the partner is not uncommon.
Duration and Criminality
(a) This type of stalker is typically the most resistant to efforts aimed at ending their stalking behavior.

Resentful Stalker:

Motivation
(a) Wants to frighten and distress his victim.
(b) Stalks his victim to get revenge against someone who has upset him.
(c) Views his victim as being similar to those who have oppressed and humiliated him in the past.
(d) May view himself as a victim striking back against an oppressor.
Personality
(a) Is often irrationally
paranoid.
Victim Characteristics
(a) Stalks victims that may have upset him directly or are representative of a group at which he is upset.
(b) May stalk someone he knows or a complete stranger.
Stalking Behaviors
(a) Can be the most obsessive and enduring type of stalker.
(b) Is the most likely to verbally threaten his victim.
(c) Is one of the least likely to physically assault his victim.
Duration and Criminality
(a) Is likely to stop stalking if confronted with legal sanctions early on. The longer the stalking continues, the less effective legal sanctions are likely to be.

Predatory Stalker:
Motivation
(a) Stalks his victim as part of a plan to attack her, usually sexually.
(b) Is motivated by the promise of sexual gratification and power over his victim.
Personality
(a) Often has poor
self-esteem and is sexually deviant.
(b) Often has poor social skills, especially in romantic relationships.
(c) May have lower than normal intelligence.
Victim Characteristics
(a) May stalk someone he knows or a complete stranger.
Stalking Behaviors
(a) Usually does not harass or try to contact his victim while he is stalking her. He is unlikely to provide any kind of
of his plan to attack the victim.
(b) May engage in behaviors such as:
- Surveillance of the victim
- Obscene phone calls
-
Exhibitionism
-
Fetishism
-
Voyeurism (Peeping Tom)
-
Paedophilia/hebephilia
-
Sexual masochism and sadism
-
Paraphilic asphyxia
Duration and Criminality
(a) May stalk for a shorter period of time than other types of stalkers.
(b) Is more likely to have prior criminal convictions, most often sexual, than other types of stalkers.
(c) Has a high potential to commit sexual assault.

Intimacy Seeker:
Motivation
(a) Seeks to establish an intimate, loving relationship with his victim.
(b) May believe the victim is in love with them. This is a
delusion.
(c) Believes that the victim may be the only person who can satisfy their desires.
(d) Believes the victim is an ideal partner.
(e) Is not a would-be lover. He already loves the victim.
(f) May interpret any kind of response from his victim, even negative responses, as encouragement.
(g) May believe the victim owes him love because of all he has invested in stalking her.
(h) Is very resistant to changing his beliefs about his victim's love for him.
Personality
(a) Is often a shy, isolated person.
(b) Often lives alone and lacks any sort of intimate relationship in his life. He may never have had an intimate relationship.
(c) Likely to have a mental disorder such as:
-
Schizophrenia
-
Erotomania
-
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Victim Characteristics
(a) May stalk acquaintances or complete strangers.
Stalking Behaviors
(a) If he recognizes he is being rejected by the victim, may become threatening or violent.
(b) May engage in behaviors such as:
- Writing letters to the victim
- Calling the victim on the telephone
- Sending the victim gifts
(c) May become jealous if his victim enters or continues a romantic relationship with another man.
Duration and Criminality
(a) Is among the most persistent type of stalker, harassing longer than any type except the rejected stalker.
(b) Is usually unresponsive to legal sanctions because he views them as challenges to overcome that demonstrate his love for the victim.

Incompetent Suitor:
Motivation
(a) Is motivated by a desire to start a romantic or intimate relationship with his victim.
(b) Is impaired in his social skills and courting skills.
Personality
(a) May be cut off from victim's feelings (lack of
empathy) and believe that any woman should be attracted to him.
(b) May have lower than normal intelligence.
Victim Characteristics
(a) Usually stalks acquaintances, but may stalk complete strangers.
Stalking Behaviors
(a) Typically engages in behaviors such as:
- Repeatedly asking for dates, even after being rejected.
- Repeatedly calling on the phone.
- Trying to hold the victim's hand or kiss the victim.
Duration and Criminality
(a) Stalks for shorter periods, on average, than any other type of stalker.
(b) Likely to have stalked numerous others in the past.
(c) Will likely stalk numerous others in the future.
(d) Will quickly stop stalking if confronted with legal action or after seeking counseling.

Erotomaniac and Morbidly Infatuated:
Motivation
(a) Believes that he is loved by the stalking victim. He believes this even though his victim has done nothing to suggest it is true, and may have made statements that she does not and never will love him.
(b) Reinterprets what his victim says and does to support his belief that she loves him.
(c) Makes the imagined romance with his victim the most important part of his life.
(d) Believes that the imagined romance will eventually become a permanent union.
Personality
(a) May suffer from one or more of the following psychological problems:
- Acute
paranoia
-
Delusions
(b) These psychological problems may be the result of numerous forms of
mental illness, such as schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, and borderline personality disorder.
Victim Characteristics
(a) Typically chooses a victim of higher social status.
Stalking Behaviors
(a) Repeatedly tries to approach and communicate with their supposed lover.
Duration and Criminality
(a) May sometimes respond well to psychological treatment with drugs and talk therapy.
(b) Is typically unresponsive to threats of legal action or legal action short of time behind bars. Without psychological treatment, he is likely to continue stalking his victim after he is released.


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