While most men can go from 鈥渟lightly interested鈥?to 鈥渇ull ejaculation鈥?in an average of three to four minutes, orgasms for women are often more elusive. On average, a woman requires 15 minutes (or longer) of combined foreplay and stimulation before orgasm is achieved. The reward: a clitoral or vaginal orgasm lasting an average of 8 to 19 seconds.
In the early 1970s, The Hite Report, a detailed nationwide study, determined that nearly 12 percent of women never experienced any type of orgasm. The same study discovered that 16 percent could have an orgasm during intercourse (with the addition of clitoral stimulation) and 19 percent achieved a rare orgasm through intercourse alone. Only 26 percent had an orgasm on a regular basis (30 percent when including those who claimed to have vague 鈥済ood feelings鈥?in the vagina). Couple this with the brief 8-to-19-second duration of an average orgasm and you have a very dire picture. Another segment of the study showed controversy over 鈥渃litoral orgasms鈥?versus 鈥渧aginal orgasms.鈥?/FONT>
The consensus revealed that clitoral orgasms (empty vagina) were largely considered 鈥渉igher intensity鈥?than orgasms with vaginal penetration.
But there was a catch. During clitoral stimulation and orgasm, most women felt a strong desire to have an object in the vagina, and often craved 鈥渢hrusting鈥?within the vagina. The problem with this 鈥渧aginal craving鈥?was that there was an immediate decrease in pleasure if vaginal penetration was made.
Additional parts of The Hite Report concluded that orgasm intensities could range from questionable (鈥淲as that an orgasm I felt?鈥? to pure ecstasy, but the high-intensity orgasms occurred much less frequently. The study also showed that most women have intercourse for the purpose of sharing emotional intimacy, while another group's primary motivation was to obtain the ever-elusive orgasm. One part of the study revealed that about a third of the women studied enjoyed anal penetration while another third didn't like anal penetration. Another section ascertained that 21 percent of women desired daily sex, while 18 percent; nearly the same amount; were satisfied with sex three times per week. Other studies in The Hite Report considered masturbation with fingers versus objects, sex with the legs together versus spread, and the preference for different positions during sex.
This information only serves to underline the obvious: Each of us is different in a wide variety of ways. While one person enjoys drinking coffee, another may not. And while one person enjoys having their partner blow into their ear, another may find the sensation unpleasant. While one person enjoys having their partner suck their toes, another finds the act disgusting. While one woman may be turned on (even to orgasm) by having her breasts fondled and nuzzled, another may find breast stimulation undesirable.
Because everyone likes and dislikes different things, it's important to communicate openly with your partner and share what both of you really enjoy and what you don't. Talk to each other and let your partner know what turns you on and what doesn't.
The study results cited above also elucidate the sad reality that many women never orgasm, and that those who do aren't always satisfied afterward. But now there is hope.
Not only do many women report G-spot orgasms to be highly satisfying, but the duration of a G-spot orgasm is considerably longer than the normal vaginal or clitoral orgasm. The G-spot orgasm often lasts 45 seconds with common reports of two-minute orgasms and rare reports of orgasms lasting between 20 and 40 minutes! One man reported:
鈥淪he kept orgasming as long as I was rubbing the spot. It never quit or slowed down. We have a clock radio on our night table and it went on for at least 45 minutes. I know that sounds like an exaggeration, but it's not. I was beginning to think it might harm her in some way if I kept going. And I was ready to explode any minute. Watching her thrash around in ecstasy and feeling how warm and wet she was against my fingers was driving me crazy. I love this G-spot thing.鈥?/FONT>