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From: MSN NicknameSilken2004  (Original Message)Sent: 8/26/2006 11:39 PM

Sexy Seduction?

Subliminal sexy seduction covers the mental aspects of love, how to seduce and mentally arouse the one you love. Have you ever been really attracted to a person and you feel the person's warmth wrapping around you and penetrate your thoughts?

And maybe as you allowed that warmth to heat up into a fire, and as your heart began to pound with the excitement of that, you realized there's something you've got to have, deep inside.

Talk To The Opposite Sex Everywhere

If you look and feel great, then you won't have any trouble with this. If you see a member of the opposite sex, looking in the window of a store, waiting for a bus, sitting on a train, in the next aisle of a movie, shopping in a department store, and for any reason this person appeals to you, strike up a conversation, start talking to the person about anything that comes to mind. Set yourself a goal of talking to the opposite sex at the supermarket, laundromat, at a concert, while standing in line at the movie, sitting at the bar, on the bus, standing in the street, in the elevator, just anywhere and everywhere.

The most important thing for you is to talk to the opposite sex everywhere, about anything until they no longer intimidate you. When talking no longer intimidates you, something special will happen. You will find yourself having non-threatening conversations with beautiful people all the time, and better yet, those conversations will naturally turn into seduction mode even without a conscious effort on your part.

And once you stop thinking about seduction, you will find yourself just doing it. You will begin to see the change in the behavior of the opposite sex towards you.

Penetrate Into the Mind of the Opposite Sex

...Seduce a Sexy Guy

Get Inside His Head

Seducing a man is about much more than low-cut blouses and come-hither glances. It's about making him feel like he can do anything, be anything...It's more about opening doors for a sexy man. It's not your job to make him walk through. It's enough to show him the door exists. So how do you locate a man's secret self?

Watch closely for the spark that lights him up

Do not expect a sexy man to be aware of his true inner self. If he knows it, or even dimly suspects it, he has probably cloaked it in disguises; the motorcycle tough guy, the comedian, the ladies' man. The truth may be the thing he hides from most people. So you've got to look closely for clues.

Lure the secret self you find in him to come out

Let's say a sexy guy turns out to be well-informed about scuba-diving. You should bone up a little bit on scuba-diving, yes, but look beyond his fascination with scuba-diving.

How does scuba-diving become a clue to his passionate secret hopes about himself? Maybe he sees himself as scientifically curious or as having an unusual vitality that he extracts from the natural world. Once you've figured him out, ask him open-ended questions about his secret passion, like "What's it like to go scuba-diving?" or "How do you know so much?" or "You never turn your mind off, do you? You're always asking questions about the world."

Show him that you see the hidden side of him. If your relationship progresses, your sense of deep understanding will grow stronger and form the basis of everything you do. The most intense loves of life make you feel like you can do anything, be anything.

Once you've discovered what's in his soul, give yourself an important role

Once you've figured out his secret self, you want to put yourself in the picture. Getting a sexy guy to fall in love with you is, ultimately, about understanding him and empowering him to be the self he always wanted to be.

Why should you have to devote all this time and energy discovering some guy's inner core? Why isn't he doing this for you instead? And if you two are meant for one another, why is all this calculation and sleuthing necessary?

Those are good questions, you shouldn't have to do this, but the horrible truth is: Men fix in their minds some rigid stereotype for the perfect woman and completely ignore pretty much everybody who doesn't fit it.

So you may be standing there in plain view, obviously perfect for him, obviously unattached, obviously lovely in many respects. And because you fail to match up, in three or four minor ways, with his mental stereotype, he will fail to consider you at all. And because you fail to match up, in three or four minor ways, with his mental stereotype, he will fail to consider you at all.

Physical Mirroring

Notice how people that seem to be engaged in an interesting conversation - they are excited about what they themselves are saying, they are about to say and what the other is saying, in other words, they have rapport - seem to take the same poses, whether sitting or standing up. When sitting, either side by side or on opposites sides of the table - one leans forward and then the other leans forward as well, one leans backward and then the other leans backward as well, they cross their hands in the same manner, tilt their heads similarly, seem to be having similar side-activities (one playing with his keychain, the other with her pen), etc. etc.

Are they directing their actions consciously? No, all their energies and concentration is on the discussion, everything else happens subconsciously. But actually, they don't even have to be having a discussion, they may just both be thinking their own thoughts, and still you can see mirroring going on - they make the same movements almost the same time without seemingly without having any perceivable interaction with the other person.

How, Whom and From Where Should I Mirror?

...Seduce a Sexy Girl

Whom: that's easy, the girl you want of course.

How: assuming the same posture, doing the same movements with your hands, in all respects using your body in a similar fashion to hers. More aspects of mirroring are:

Following: doing the movements after she did them. Note that although your mind screams "This is stupid! I'm going to get caught! She must see me doing the same movements! This is ridiculous!", don't' listen to it, fight it, it is the voice of the dark side! Why?Because they never notice it! Instead, they feel more comfortable and relaxed in connection with you, and eventually, more drawn to you.

Pacing: doing the movements the same time with your sexy girl. Yes. Sounds impossible? Well it isn't. Have you ever noticed how you sometimes happened to do the same things at exactly the same time with another person. Maybe yawn and then have a laugh about it? Because you thought it was accidental? Well it wasn't, you had reached the second stage of mirroring.

Leading: if you've done your mirroring right, have followed and paced, then you are ready for a revelation. In addition to being a tool of building rapport, you can lead her into doing some pretty fun stuff. You can lead! Try it. Cough. She coughs. Scratch your elbow. Well maybe she'll scratch her shoulder instead of her elbow. Have fun.

As to from where to mirror, the most common situation is when you're talking to your sexy girl. But you can also try mirroring from a distance, say in a classroom, meeting, nightclub or cafeteria, just make sure she has a chance to subconsciously detect you mirroring her, in other words, she must be able to see you.


1. Know what you want
Before you start looking for the woman that you want get a clear idea of the type of woman you are after in your head. WRITE IT DOWN on paper and hide it. Your mind will subconsciously attract the described woman. I know it takes effort to find a pen and paper to do this... but do you have anything to lose!? So scribble it down now. Her height, her weight, her hair, her education, etc.

Since you will be summed up, labeled, and judged before you even utter a word, you must pay particular attention to your physical appearance. You do not have to be endowed with great physical good looks to be effective at picking up woman, but you do need to be CLEAN AND NEAT and give the impression that you care about your presentation. What is most important is to dress appropriately according to the situation. And if you are unsure of what to wear to a particular event, make the mistake of over dressing rather than under dressing.

Always be prepared with a pen or pencil and some paper or something on which to write down the phone number of the woman you're picking up. Nine times out of ten, if you don't get a woman's phone number, you will never see her again. Make it a habit of carrying a pen with you at all times.

3.Body Language
Did you know that over 60% of what you communicate is non-verbal? That means your facial expressions, how you carry yourself (never slouch), your hand movements, the smell of your body (use a good cologne), and how you deal with the space around you, all communicate to a woman what kind of man you are. Never under estimate the power of non-verbal communication.

The most important tip I can give you about picking up a woman is to make a eye contact with her. Look long and adoringly into her eyes. Never look down (a sign of submission, timidity, and weakness) and never look at a woman's breasts when you're talking to her. Women will reject you and consider you disrespectful if you do. Maintaining eye contact also says to a woman that you are interested in her and that you want to get to know her. This is a pre-requisite (according to women) to get to know how she is in bed.

A smile sends a positive and important message. A smile says, "I will not reject you. I like you." A smile combined with prolonged eye contact says, "I like you a lot. I want to know you. Let's talk." Women who smile back at you and who maintain eye contact with you too are those who will be most receptive to your advances.

4.Conversation Technique
You may have heard or read somewhere that people like to talk about themselves and that you should spend most of your time listening and asking questions if you want others to like you. If you're goal is to charm this sexy lady, you've got to do more than that. You've got to tell her something about yourself. Specifically, you've got to "tell her" that tou two are very much alike. You do this by making "me-too" statements. That is, it is desirable to bring yourself into the conversation when you can relate yourself to something she's talking about or make yourself seem similar to her.

People always like others who are similar to themselves. By being similar to me, you essentially validate my perceptions of the world. I will see you as clever, intelligent, charming, and likeable... because you're like me.

The Seduction Method

Bare in mind that you have approximately three minutes to make a favorable impression on a woman when you first meet her. I call this The First Three Minutes Of Contact. What happens in those first three minutes will determine whether you are going to succeed or fail at picking up a woman. So it is vitally important to know how to influence a woman in a way that will bring you the results you desire from the moment you meet her. The following sections will take you through ways to APPROACH a woman, how to get a chemical connection established and finally get her phone number.

The Approach: Do not hesitate to approach a sexy woman. You have 5 seconds to act. Staring at her all night long will not get her more interested. If she gives you a second glance go up to her. As soon as you spot her you have 5 seconds to act.

The Introduction: But after you break the ice with an opening line, the very next thing you should say or do is introduce yourself. Just use your first name in informal situations, and both your first and last name in more impersonal situations. Then allow the woman you're picking up to offer you her name. Pause for a moment. If she doesn't offer it, ask her what her name is. Then, and this is very important, use her name in the very next sentence that comes out of your mouth. Using her name works like magic to put her at ease and makes her more interested in you. A person's name is the most important and powerful word you can ever say.

Compliment: The next thing you want to say or do is compliment her. Call attention to some detail about her, and flatter her in a totally positive way. Be sure to avoid obvious compliments at all costs. Say something specific, that is special about her. Be polite and creative when dishing out compliments. The more poetic and/or dramatic you can be, the better the results you'll get. Because men lust with their eyes, but women lust with their ears!

The Conversation Chemistry: A lot of guys ask me what they should talk about once they get a sexy woman's name and after they have complimented her. What you need to do is find out what she wants, what she desires, or what turns her on, her passion or hobby. Ask her questions about that and you will have captivated her completely. Also, always find ways to agree with her. never desagree with a woman when you first meet her. You want to create a context of relatedness, and that's done by agreeing with her.

Focus all your attention and energy on listening to what the woman is saying to you. Try to visualize or "feel" what she's saying. Seeds refer to subtle hints that women give that point to conversational topics that they would like to or be willing to discuss.

Keep in mind that if a woman likes you or would like to get to know you better, she will give you free information to follow up on. She will throw out some seeds for you to water. If she's not attracted to you, she won't give you much of anything and it will be very difficult to maintain a decent conversation with her. No matter how charming you are, if she doesn't "help you out some" you'll eventually have to admit defeat and walk away. So be sure to listen for the topics she'd like to discuss.

The Phone Number: never be shy about asking her for ger phone number. It doesn't matter that you only just met her. Even if you have only spoken with her for as little as one minute! Be direct. You can say something like, "I have to be going now. But I'd love to see you again. Can I call you?" Without the all important phone number, you will never get anywhere with a woman. Because to score you will need a date. And to get a date you will need the number. So always ask for the telephone number! If you get her phone number, chances are she is at least interested in going out with you on a date and possibly a lot more.

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