THE COSMO SEX SURVEY: HIS FRISKY WISH LIST REVEALED
We got thousands of guys to talk about their favorite subject -- sex. But we quizzed them on the topics you were most curious about. Dig in to discover what they want in bed...and how they want it. The results are scorching. When it comes to sussing out what your stud wants in bed, you could always just ask him. But it's a helluva lot hotter to make him think you have ESP (extra sexual perception). Plus, you don't know if he's being 100 percent honest if you do ask. That's where Cosmo comes in. Every year we run our sex survey to help you become the kind of bedmate who could tempt a man to sell his soul just to get you in the sack. Once again we went straight to the source -- tons of randy, eager-to-dish dudes -- to clue us in. Only this time, we decided to post your carnal queries to the guys. Tons of you flooded our Website, wanting to know everything from the secret of a sensational shag to the oral techniques that will make his toes curl. Check out the down and dirty details.
Would you rather masturbate or get a hand job from your girlfriend?
80% Get a hand job
"Both feel good, but would you rather make yourself a sandwich or order takeout? It's the convenience of letting someone else do all the work."
"I can masturbate anytime I like, but it's always much nicer to have somebody there helping you out."
What's your favorite female body type?
61.6% Curvy with an average rack
"Bones aren't sexy; flesh is. Haven't you ever heard the saying 'More cushion for the pushin'?"
20.4% Svelte with big breasts
11.6% Model-thin and small-chested
1.7% Big and bodacious
Do you prefer a girl with more or less sexual experience than you?
37.4% Doesn't matter
"A lot of guys don't want a girl with more sexual experience, because they're afraid of being compared to her other lovers."
"I like the idea of a girl being able to teach me a thing or two."
The hottest role-playing fantasy?
37.8% The sexy schoolteacher
"It brings you back to sophomore year of high school. You'd be the man if you hooked up with the teacher."
12.3% The naughty nurse
10.2% The French maid
8.1% The hooker
Would you be turned on if you found out a girl you were dating had slept with another chick?
"It shows she's experimental. Plus, it ups your chances of having a threesome, every guy's wet dream."
"I can see how some guys would like that, but if I were serious about a girl, it would bother me."
Tell us the secret to giving a killer hand job.
45.3% Mixing up her stroking technique
"It's a combination of pace, grip and motion. You have to mix up the tempo and alternate between working the tip and stroking the full shaft. Ball play is also mandatory."
32.7% Using her free hand to play with my balls
"I think a lot of women don't play with a guy's boyz because they're afraid they'll hurt them, but trust me: Gently massaging them feels amazing...the key word being gently."
8.8% Using lots of lube
7.1% Fast and furious stroking
6.1% Using both hands
What's the biggest mistake a woman can make when performing fellatio?
32.3% Not incorporating her hands
"Her mouth isn't as tight as her hand is, so if she's only sucking you, it's just not that intense."
22.0% Not covering her teeth
17.8% Not sucking hard enough
16.3% Focusing only on the head
11.6% Ignoring the twins
How can she get you to last longer in the sack?
44.9% Change positions
"When you're both going at it and the momentum starts building, it's too tempting for the guy to just pound away toward the finish line. Changing positions forces him to put the brakes on, take a breather and then work back up to the brink."
"The different angles of penetration give me different sensations. Some positions feel more intense and make me want to come right away; others let the intensity dissipate."
27.8% Stop-start method
16.8% Stay still with me inside her
How do you feel if she has to stimulate herself to have an orgasm?
64.5% It's hot, and I get to learn what she likes
"I love it when she touches herself, but it's cool when she stops halfway through, because I know she's worked up and I can just take over."
14.0% Who cares, as long as she comes
What's on your mind during sex?
48.5% I don't think; I just enjoy myself
"I go on autopilot and let myself get wrapped up in the feeling. I don't see how someone could think during sex and still enjoy it."
38.9% Whether she's enjoying it
"All I think about is what I can do to make her feel good for as long as possible. And I do it and get off on it."
4.8% Getting off
4.0% Fantasizing about another sex act
3.8% Fantasizing about some other person
What position gives you the most stimulation?
38.9% Woman on top
"With the woman on top, she's in control, so she can make sure she pleases herself. And honestly, it's a good breather for us guys. We get to lie there and do nothing!"
"I'm a big fan of doggy-style because her ass is hitting your stomach and your balls are kind of whacking her legs. It's a crazy sensation."
"Doggy is great because her rear end is so sexy; I like to grab it and pump away. We have a mirror on our headboard, and I love to watch her facial expressions as I go."
What can a woman do to make intercourse mind-blowing?
47.6% Make lots of sounds
"If she goes 'ouch,' you know it hurts; if she goes 'ah,' you know it feels good and you can put that move in your memory bank. It's like going to a game. When the fans cheer, you get excited; when they boo, you're bummed."
23.6% Grab my hips and direct the action
"First, she should initiate it with a little fun and enthusiasm (a striptease, a quick flash or an ambush from behind the door). Second, she should throw me on my back and make love to me by eagerly climbing on top and going to work as soon as I'm hard. Third, she should try a position that's not in the usual repertoire."
7.7% Grab my butt
4.0% Bite my lip
1.7% Pull my hair
How important is it for your partner to orgasm?
50% I'd prefer it, but it won't ruin my time if she didn't
"Ruined is a pretty harsh term. An orgasm is enjoyable no matter what else is going on. Since I know that she may not always be able to get there, I understand when she tells me it isn't going to happen. But when I can give her multiple orgasms and see her face contorted in pleasure, it makes it better for me, knowing we're both really enjoying ourselves."
48.1% It's crucial
"If my girl doesn't get hers, I feel like my mission wasn't accomplished. It's like there was something I didn't do that I should've done."
1.9% Honestly, all I care about is getting off myself
If your girlfriend brought a vibrator to bed, you'd...
57.8% Be psyched
"There's nothing hotter than a woman who's confident enough to push the erotic envelope. I was once with an older woman and I didn't put in my finest performance. She said 'Don't worry' and handed me a vibrator. It was the perfect alternative."
"If it helps her orgasm, why not? Plus, it shows that she enjoys sex and is willing to try new things and have a good time, which is a turn-on on its own."
31.8% Be a little uneasy, but I'd give it a try
10.4% Freak out. Is that her way of telling me I'm a lame lay?
"I suppose sex toys could make some guys feel kind of inadequate. That's why it's so important for a woman to make sure that her guy knows she isn't suggesting they try using one because he isn't doing the job."
Think about the best lover you've ever had. What made her so hot?
32.9% She was experimental and creative
"I used to go out with a girl who watched a lot of porn and obviously read Cosmo. She rocked my world because she wasn't afraid to actually try some of the things she'd seen and read. Acting out her fantasies really got me off."
31.4% She made me feel like I was the best lover she ever had
"I don't want her to outright lie, but she should tell me what she likes about me or my body or the way I make her feel or whatever she finds pleasing about my performance. Then if she wants to teach me something to help me get her off, she should show or tell me what it is."
23.9% She was always up for action
11.8% She'd do anything I wanted her to do
Men describe the mouth maneuvers that blow their minds.
- "I go nuts when my girlfriend uses her lips and the back of her tongue around the edges of my helmet, which is definitely my most sensitive area. I also like it when she plays with my balls with her free hand."
- "The biggest secret is that she should be into it. It shouldn't be a chore or something she feels like she has to do."
- "The best way she can use her hands is to make a ring with her thumb and forefinger and move it up and down. It provides more sensation."
- "Start by stroking my shaft with her fingers. Look at it, kiss it, then lick it up and down. Then she should open her mouth, put it in as far as it will go, wrap her lips around it tightly and start going up and down, making sure her tongue is pressing against it with every motion."
- "Instead of just sucking on my shaft the whole time, she should periodically take it out and lick it for a while. I like to see her tongue on it. Seeing ourselves being sucked off is almost as important as feeling it."