Silken Fire's Fireplace II

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I can't believe I am widowed again. I have been blessed with two amazing, wonderful, loving men. In total I have been married for 21 years 14 for the first husband and 7 for my second husband. I feel so bad when I complain about how much I miss them, because I know so many people have never found true love and I have found it twice. I feel so lonley at times. I have lot's of friends and two grown boys who both live with their girlfriends, but I think to myself I am only 42 and I lost two husbands. I do believe there are reasons things happen, and I hold tight to my faith but late at night the tears start and I think they will never stop. The funny thing is when you go through it a second time, you learned from the first time that the tears will stop and life will go on.

Hello Maggie... Your feelings of loss must be huge and I write to say that I am so sorry for your obviously deep pain... I don't know how long your second husband has been gone but your grief "sounds" pretty fresh... I do know that your partners would be saddened to know that you are so very sad and lonely in their absence.

In grief, the nights always seem to be the worst... Perhaps because we struggle to cope with the practicalities of life during the day, it is only at night that our feelings can find a place in time to be dealt with... When I am grieving, this is very true for me as well... But the feelings MUST come out somewhere.. You can't keep them inside when they are so big so perhaps your tears are one of the healthiest things that can happen for you...

I hope that you will gather your friends and family around you for support during this time... It really IS okay to have all of these feelings when your losses have been so huge and I hope you will talk about your grief to those who will wrap their arms around you, walk with you and share this part of your journey with you...

If it helps you to write, please come up to the Fireplace and write your heart out here... You are among warm, loving spirits who use every device available to transcend the limitations of this medium to let our members know they are NOT alone...

I pray that God cradles you gently in the palm of His hand until your pain eases...

With sincerest condolences & many hugggs,

Thank you Silken your words truly help.

I could not even begin to put into words any better than what our Silk has said to you. She is right in it all.

I would like to say once again though to feel free to come on in, sit by the fire of friends you have here, and write your heart out hon. You are not alone here.......never will be.

My heart aches for you and the loss that you have sustained in such a short life.........but I was glad to see what a positive attitude you have about it even with all the pain!
I have a feeling you are going to be just fine. Cry through the nights, it is ok. And remember.......your not alone. We are all here for you at anytime you may feel the need to reach out....our hearts and hands are reaching back for you.

Thank you Lady for your kind words. It really does help being able to talk about it. you have all been so kind to me. Thank you so much.

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