Ratings:
0 Never
1 Seldom
2 Sometimes
3 Often

1. I absorb information quickly.
2. I am talkative early in the morning.
3. I am talkative late at night.
4. I pay attention to visual details.
5. I give short, concise answers to most questions.
6. I keep most of my thoughts to myself.
7. Much of the time I am absorbed in my own ideas.
8. It is easy for me to identify my feelings.
9. I believe most of my thoughts are of interest to others.
10. I believe most of my thoughts are not of interest to others.
11. I believe most of my thoughts are none of anyone else's concern.
12. I have difficulty expressing my thoughts.
13. I have difficulty expressing my feelings.
14. I base my decisions more on logic than emotions.
15. I like to talk about intimate and/or emotional matters.
16. I have a hard time knowing what I'm feeling.
17. I feel overwhelmed or confused when people jump from one idea to another.
18. I am a fast talker.
19. I quickly tire of a subject.
20. I speak slowly, often pausing to think.
21. I feel bored or anxious if my partner talks too slowly.
22. I feel bored or anxious if my partner talks too quickly.
23. I like to be the center of attention.
24. I vigorously defend my thoughts and opinions.
25. I like to talk about what I am feeling.
26. I like to have good conversations when I eat.
27. I don't like to talk when I eat.
28. I like to talk to someone when I drive.
29. I don't like to talk when I drive.

30. I do not like to talk about money or financial matters.

Now answer the following questions in a few words or a few paragraphs, whatever your "style."

As a general rule, the times of day and general situations when I feel most available to talk are _____________________________.

I listen most attentively when people (examples: talk slowly, talk quickly, don't dwell on one subject too long, speak with enthusiasm, speak in a calm voice, share their emotions, etc.) _____________________________.

It is difficult for me to pay attention when people (talk at length about work, jump from topic to topic, talk only about problems, etc.) _____________________________.

It is difficult for me to talk when (people ask too many questions, I am tired, I first wake up, etc.) ___________________________________.

Look for a pattern in your answers. The pattern expresses your individual styles of conversation and communication. This personal insight will help converse with many different types of people.