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From: MSN NicknameSilken2004  (Original Message)Sent: 5/10/2008 8:14 PM

Clouded by Beauty - Vision

You鈥檝e no doubt heard the term 鈥渢unnel vision鈥?before. When affected by said condition, a person can only focus on one narrow dimension to the exclusion of all else. If you are on the last lap of the Grand Prix de Monaco shadowing Fernando Alonso鈥檚 McLaren for the checkered flag as if the Mercedes logo were crosshairs, then tunnel vision is a good thing.

In other areas of life, not so much. If the dessert cart at The Cheesecake Factory instills tunnel vision in you鈥攐r the blackjack table at The Mirage鈥攖hen there鈥檚 a distinct possibility that healthy balance will be lost.

And for us guys, the extent to which we focus our attention on a woman鈥檚 physical beauty can very easily cause us to lapse into a similar trance.

Call it a state of being 鈥渃louded by beauty vision鈥?

Now allow me to make myself abundantly clear. Guys are wired to desire physically attractive women. I am certainly no exception. By all means we should never, ever 鈥渟ettle鈥?when it comes to spending our time with a woman whom we genuinely find easy on the eyes.

But somewhere along the road of never 鈥渟ettling鈥?in this area, something UNsettling tends to happen. When we encounter any random example of the absolute most physically stunning woman on Earth, it鈥檚 mind-bending how often that鈥檚 ALL she has to offer us.

It鈥檚 not that she isn鈥檛 intelligent or otherwise talented as a human being. The issue is simply as I stated it. ALL she has to OFFER a man is her beauty. Having been extended 鈥渟pecial treatment鈥?her entire life by the vast majority of men (and perhaps even most women) who kowtow to her every whim, she believes her beauty to be 鈥渆nough鈥?to get her through life. In her mind, doing the heavy lifting necessary to cultivate character depth or even a hint of a winsome personality isn鈥檛 just a low priority, it鈥檚 flat-out irrelevant.

After all, her outward beauty carries her through life. Her 鈥渟ocial proof鈥?is so indelibly secured as a 鈥渂eautiful woman鈥?that adding further dimensions to her overall level of sharpness is seen as having no real impact. And indeed, in a shockingly high percentage of instances (notably even in the workforce) it truly doesn鈥檛.

As guys, we may meet such women hoping for more and openly express resentment or even disgust towards this state of affairs. Yet, the ways of the world continue.


Well certainly everyone鈥攎an or woman鈥攊s ultimately responsible for his or her actions and conduct.

But let鈥檚 face it. Women respond to men who LEAD. And we as guys have provided the exact kind of leadership that made this possible. By falling all over ourselves to get close to a pretty woman and cater to her needs, vast numbers of beautiful woman have simply learned to respond accordingly.

And as long as the majority of guys out there gladly hand over all of their dignity to female beauty, the world will continue to revolve as advertised. The crazy part is that since women also demand a man whom they can respect, the perpetuators of this machine are exactly the same guys who largely have ZERO chance at actually succeeding at getting close to a beautiful woman. Go figure.

Lest we believe this is a gender specific thing, consider the male equivalent of what I鈥檓 talking about here.

A guy is blessed with having great wealth. Despite whatever else the fabric of his identity is composed of, he finds that when it comes to what people want out of him there鈥檚 a distinct common denominator: His money. He soon discovers that whatever his overall demeanor, his ability to manipulate the masses with cold-hard cash remains, for the most part, constant. After all, they are 鈥渃louded by dollar vision鈥? 鈥淢ean People Suck?鈥?That鈥檚 the mantra of the 鈥渓ittle people鈥? This guy begins to believe that he was born to be a 鈥渃ash dispenser鈥? and that becomes enough for him like it long has been for others around him.

But thankfully there are gracious multi-billionaires out there who truly have great depth and make the world a better place wherever they go.

And yes鈥here are also fantastically beautiful women out there who have the inner character to match. Find such a woman and you discover exactly what why we focus so much on deserving what you want around here. Can you deserve such a woman? Is that even a priority? Or are you 鈥榗louded by beauty-vision鈥?

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