Well Top... it's an interesting question you've posed.... It's kinda tough to have any relationship... whether it's in chat, over the phone or in person... where the relationship is only about one of the two people... But in some cases, a difference in typing speeds and patience between the 2 individuals can be a significant factor in the proper flow of a chat convo...
I tend to handle chat problems in a direct manner on I.M. If I say something in I.M. I really want the other person to "get", I will re-type it, point at it or literally ask the other person to comment on it. And if I am aware that the other person is not much of a typist, I try even harder to have patience with responses... Family doesn't get special privileges in this regard... They are part of my life and I would not want a relationship with anyone that wasn't based in mutually sincere interest.... I would talk to them about the problem as I saw it, right then and there... My "martyr" days are long over... thank God!
But 3 things that DO upset me in Messenger? People who don't pay any attention to my "status"... If I am marked as "busy" or "away", I don't mind if someone leaves me a message saying, 'hey, I'd like to talk to you when you return or are not busy...' but I get choked when someone can see I am marked away or busy and they insist on trying to have a convo with me... Or.. .even worse... they leave me some kind of snotty comment about my not responding to their I.M. To me, that is no different than walking up to 2 people who are having a conversation and insisting they drop their convo to have one with me...
The 2nd thing that will upset me is someone I am conversing with, having more than one convo on the go and leaving me hanging for 5 or 10 minutes before they even start to answer something I have asked or said... Or people that play games (I mean "actual games" offered on the Net) after they have initiated a convo with me and then expect me to sit and wait for long periods while they are off playing... GRRRR... It isn't long before I will type..."hey.. you're busy... let's talk later... bye 4 now"...
The 3rd thing that upsets me in I.M. is a husband or wife who is snooping around in their partner's Messenger, sees me come into Messenger and attempts to have a convo with me as their partner to try to find out what I normally discuss with their partner... To me, that is a pretty low thing for anyone to do... I am not prepared to be victimized by a relationship between a man and a woman I have no part of...
All of these things, I will handle right then and there... I am not one to go away and write an email later and I DO want to give a person a chance to have a good relationship with me... By NOT saying anything about what is bothering us when we talk to someone, they often don't even know what they are doing that is offensive... Not fair to punish someone for that!
That's my view... for what it's worth...
Wishing everyone GOOD CHATS!!!
Luv 'n hugggs,
Silken
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