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| | From: Silken2004 (Original Message) | Sent: 1/27/2007 10:25 PM |
The Anchor Exercise by Pete Cohen - Sports Motivator
Everyone of us has, at some point in our lives, felt like we ruled the world. Sports Motivator Pete Cohen says it is possible to tap into that feeling whenever you want. How do I do it? All you have to do is remember a moment when you were supremely confident. It doesn't matter where you were or what you were doing - Pete says that we can even be confident when we are asleep! - Once you have got the sensation of confidence then close your eyes and start to let that feeling increase.
- Now picture where you would like to carry this confidence with you. This may be to a party, a public speaking situation, playing sport, a job interview or just everyday living.
- Picture yourself wherever you want to take your feeling of confidence - whether it is in an interview room or in front of an audience.
- Then start to increase that feeling of confidence even more.
- Physically feel where the sensation of confidence is coming from. Is it from your stomach, your head, your hands?
- Now start to throw this sensation around your body, running from your head to your feet and back up again. Increase the feeling even more. You may want to start counting from 1 to 10, raising the feeling of confidence in your body with each number.
- Now you are over-flowing with confidence, and about to explode. What do you do? This is the clever part. What you need to do is think of an 'anchor'. The anchor is a physical gesture - anything from punching the air to giving your thigh a pinch.
- You should perform this anchor when you are at the point of 'maximum confidence'.
You should follow this process a few times to get the hang of it as well as make it more effective. What it will enable you to do is to trigger off that feeling of confidence whenever you want. So if you are going into an interview and need a boost of confidence it could simply be a case of pinching your thigh and bingo - in you go ready to conquer the world! SCROLL DOWN - THERE'S MORE.... |
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The Art of Conversation by Ros Taylor
Sparking up a conversation can be seriously tricky. Especially if you find yourself sitting next to somebody who on first glance seems to have absolutely nothing in common with you. With no obvious common ground to fall back on, it can be tough to break the ice and keep conversation going with a complete stranger. Ros Tayler believes that there are techniques that we can learn to help us in such dilemmas. How do I do it? Stage 1 - FORE Ros believes that there are four topics of conversation that everybody can contribute to. These are: - Family
- Occupation
- Recreation
- Education
The great thing about these topics is that they are pretty much universal. Most people have had or have a family. The same goes for a job. Most people like doing things in their spare time - even if it is watching television. And of course, we all had to go to school at some point in our lives. So everyone we meet will be able talk about at least one of these subjects. What is so useful about having these topics up your sleeve is that it actually allows you to not have to do too much. If you do not want to talk then you can sit back and listen to what is being said. On the other hand you may be interested in what the other person has to say and join in enthusiastically - the options are there. Stage 2 - Open Ended Questions It is a common misconception that good conversationalists always have amazing stories to tell and a well of jokes to dip into. In fact, what most people want from conversation is dialogue and interaction, not just one way traffic. A good way of creating this flow of dialogue is by asking questions in a specific way. For example, questions like 'Do you live in London?' can be answered with a 'yes' or 'no': not very good for breeding conversation. Whereas 'Where do you live?' has scope for a longer, and hopefully more interesting reply. This is an open ended question. As a general rule: - Questions starting with 'are' or 'do' are closed questions, generating yes or no answers.
- Questions starting with 'what', 'where', 'which', 'who' and 'when', are open questions, which need fuller answers.
If you are looking for something a little deeper and more involved then you could try out the probing questions. These start with words like 'how', 'why' and 'in what way'. But make sure you find the person interesting before you do this as it might mean saying goodbye to an evening talking to others! Good luck.
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Be your own hero by Roy Leighton
This exercise, apart from being a lot of fun, will help you realise that being who you would like to be is not so impossible after all. What's it for? Roy Leighton sees the exercise as a chance for people to rehearse undeveloped ability and fulfil their potential. You will need at least 2 people to perform this exercise. How do I do it? Who is your hero? If you do not have one then try to think of someone who has characteristics that you admire or wish you had. Your hero may be real, fictional, dead or alive. Think why you admire them. What are the specific qualities that you look up to? - Imagine how your hero might behave on a very simple level, for example how might they walk round a room. Try and emulate them.
- Once you have established how your hero moves, think of a phrase that your hero might say. Take on the persona of your hero and have a chat with somebody. What would your hero say and how would they behave? What advice might they give others?
- Next think of a scenario from the past that did not go as well as you would have liked. This can be a problem you experienced at work or at home; an interaction with another person; a struggle with learning or motivation - anything. Working with a friend, play out the scenario as you remember it happening, including the negative outcome.
- What would you have liked to do differently? Re-enact the situation but this time as your hero. Try not to take action which is too fantastic; laser beaming someone to the planet Zarg, for example, would be deemed inappropriate. Focus instead on the superior-human qualities that your character has, and let them dictate your reactions.
- Was the outcome positive this time? If so how did it feel and how did you cope as your hero? Enjoy the feeling of release as well as success.
- Then ask yourself whether you were just acting as your hero or if you were uncovering hidden attributes to your own personality. It might well have felt strange but this is because you are not used to behaving in this way.
As with anything practice makes perfect so if this exercise was good for you then carry on assuming the qualities that you would like to have. In time you will see that making a change is not so difficult, and that by acting as our heroes we can become more like them. If you are up for it, keep a journal of experimentation with your 'hero' and chart your progress. You may well be surprised. |
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Speak your mind by Roy Leighton Most, if not all of us, want to be liked. All too often this need to feel appreciated and admired can draw us into saying 'yes' when we really mean 'no'. What's it for? It is an easy habit to get into. Roy Leighton's theory is that if you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got. This exercise will help you get off your treadmill. He believes we all have the power to change our patterns of behaviour and become what we want. How does it work? This is a good group exercise, but can also be effective as a one-on-one session. Roy suggests you don't do it on your own, as the whole point is to modify your response to others. It also uses, what Roy calls, the 'Pendulum Effect'. It allows you to go to the opposite extreme of where, or who, you usually are so that somewhere along the line a 'middle way' can be found. - Imagine a scenario in the past where you have said 'yes' but meant 'no'. Explain to the group or your exercise partner what the situation was, what the outcome was and how you felt.
- Ask your partner to ask you the question that you should have said 'no' to. This needs to be one sentence.
- It should not turn into a debate! We are not looking for the person asking the question to give a convincing argument of why they need a 'yes'. As soon as they start to ask the question, interrupt and say clearly and loudly: 'NO!'.
- If there are several people in the group get them to form a line and each person begins to ask you 'Can you stay late at work tonight..?' or 'Mum, please can you help me do this..?' etc. As soon as you have said 'no' they go to the back of the queue.
- If there are just two of you, then the questioner receives the 'no', steps away and then steps back and asks again.
- With each request your 'no' has to become more and more determined, blunt and even rude. Whether in pairs or part of a group the questions should come thick and fast, in as many ways as you can imagine.
- This exercise can go on for at least 30 'no's'. Once you have finished, jot down on a piece of paper how you feel. Focus on the positive feelings you are experiencing. Keep this piece of paper with you.
The next time you feel like saying 'yes' remember your feelings. Remember how you felt writing down those words and feel free to say 'no'. Back it up with a short, reasonable explanation if necessary but if you mean 'no' then let it be heard! Remember, it is often the case that people treat us as we feel we deserve to be treated. Once we make it clear first to ourselves, and then, through our actions, to others, that the rules have changed then people will change the way they treat us as a matter of course. With dedication you can become the person you want to be. |
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