Ever wonder how in the world you're supposed
to get closer to a man and connect with him, let
alone have a real relationship, when he won't even
open up, listen, or share what's going on inside?

   Like when you seem to be drifting farther and
farther apart, and actually talk and share less as
time goes on...but the guy doesn't seem to notice
or care?

   Where did all the conversation, connection,
attraction and passion go to?

   I mean, is it really a woman's "job" to be the
one who does all the work just to get a man to
actually COMMUNICATE and connect?

   The answer is NO....

   However, the reality is that lots of women have
relationships with men that become stuck in a rut
this way.

   But guess what?

   It DOESN'T HAVE TO WORK THIS WAY.

   Keep reading and you'll LEARN how men can go
from "emotionally unavailable" and withdrawn with
a woman to intimate and connected, WITHOUT you
having to do all the work.

   But first, let me ask you...

   Have you ever felt like you just weren't able
to talk to a man about anything "serious" or
important in your relationship? At least not
without things turning ugly?

   And forget about sharing your deeper feelings,
questions, or doubts.

   These would seriously FREAK HIM OUT and push
his buttons, right?

   What's with men?

   Are we completely immature and incapable, or do
women share responsibility here too?

   Good question.

   If you've ever felt lonely, disconnected, or
unappreciated because you didn't have a "voice"
inside your relationship with a man...

   Or if a man didn't ever "see" or "hear" you,
even when you couldn't have been more open,
thoughtful and direct, then you won't want to
miss this email.


THE COMMON WAYS "EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE" MEN
WITHDRAW...AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT

   One of the most common, frustrating and
destructive things men do with women in
relationships is pull away or completely withdraw
emotionally.

   If you've ever had this happen and it dragged
on, even just for a few hours or days, then you
know it can feel like a slow "emotional death."

   Your creativity, energy, and passion all start
to wither away and you get drawn into some weird
"funk."

   Well, there's something that lots of women
don't recognize that I want to share with you...

   It's strange, kind of bizarre, and hard for
lots of women to believe...but it's something
I've observed again and again about men.

   It's that when it comes to emotional withdrawal
and distance in a relationship, most men DON'T
EVEN UNDERSTAND what it is.

   And therefore they can't notice it or see it as
a problem to address when it comes up.

   Ok, let me repeat that.

   Some men just plain DON'T GET IT.

   Got it?

   Now, why am I telling you this?

   Because lots of women get upset when a man
withdraws and pays more attention to his favorite
sports team, work, or whatever, and they take it
personally...as though the man is consciously
doing something to ruin the relationship or to
REJECT her.

   Wrong.

   The truth is that lots of men have no idea how
important sharing feelings, emotions, and
experiences are to a relationship...and they
honestly don't have much practice at it either.

   So when a great woman comes along who he could
have an amazing time with and get close to...

   And she starts noticing that he has some
emotional shortcomings that he doesn't have all
the answers for, or experience with...

   Instead of identifying these for what they are
(part of his natural "masculine" tendency to pull
away and focus in an emotionally uninvolved way)
she feels rejected, unappreciated or deadened by
it.

   How many men, do you know, get together with
their friends to talk about their feelings and
discuss the details and meaning of the
relationships in their lives?

   Exactly.

   That's why it's FASCINATING to recognize that
lots of men actually value NOT SHARING these
things (feelings, emotions,  and meaning behind
relationships).

   Men who are this way often say or think things
like:

   "It's better if we don't talk about it..."

   Or..."Why do you nag me about this stuff?!"

   Sound familiar?

   So what's a woman to do with a man who thinks
or talks this way?

   Dump him and move on?

   Ok, I can't make that decision for you, but a
man MUST BE willing to be part of the learning
process that IS a relationship.

   Translation - if he's open to learning and
growth in some way, then he's not a lost cause.

   So how open to learning and growth is your guy?

   And how open to learning and growth are you?

   Or is all this talk about learning to understand
more about what men are feeling like too much "work?"


THE POWER TO UNDERSTAND IS THE POWER TO CHANGE
AND GROW

   Let me ask you an important question, since men
aren't going to magically change their biological
make-up, personalities, or brain chemistry any
time soon...

   Have you ever thought about how a man's
"emotional withdrawal" actually works and what
brings it about?

   I'm asking because I've noticed something crazy
and fascinating...

   Lots of women don't take the time to think
through HOW and WHY a man becomes distant.

   (Just like lots of men don't think through how
or why a woman wants to emotionally connect.)

   Instead, they jump to immediately feeling
frustrated that it's happening... AGAIN. (Which
usually leads to things getting worse, not
better.)

   And hey...I get that this would be frustrating
for a woman, who's putting so much of herself into
the relationship, to try and make things better
for him and her.

   Buy, there's a better way than becoming
emotionally drained and resisting when a man acts
like this...

   So what can a woman do to avoid a man's
"withdrawal response", in the first place, to save
them both the trouble?

   And how can a woman deal with this,
unfortunately, common situation with men,  in a
healthy way and get back to an open and loving place
quickly?

   I thought you'd never ask...

STEP ONE:

   The first step for a woman is to identify how
the man withdraws.

   Why?

   So she can understand what's going on when it
happens, and not be caught off guard or get
carried away with the fear of not knowing what's
happening.

   As strange as it might sound, just knowing more
about how a man withdraws will keep you in a
better emotional and mental state.

   In my program, From Casual To Committed, I go
into a lot of detail about why a man withdraws, and
what his behavior reveals about his mental state.

   See if you can identify with any of these:

-  He doesn't listen at all or dismisses what you're
saying because he's distracted, focused on, or
more interested in something else.

-  He gets defensive for no good reason, tries to
argue and turns the table with anything you say,
telling you that you give him too much "drama" and
points out your faults.

-  He plays dumb. (And maybe he's not even playing!)

-  He immediately responds with irritation and
frustration when you mention the distance between
you, and tells you that you're overreacting.

-  He's so wrapped up or stressed by his work or
projects in his life that when you do spend time
together, he's still not really there with you.
And, he seems even more irritated when you try to
get him to relax and open up.

-  He tries to appease you by acting like he "gets"
what you're talking about, but he doesn't really
listen or take what you have to say to heart. It's
back to the same old guy behavior a few days or
weeks later.

-  He has no idea what to do or how to start
communicating with you on the subject, so he
changes the subject or tunes out to avoid talking
about it.

   Ok. Now, any of these look familiar?

   You might even recognize several.

   You might even have one or two of these that
seem to happen over and over.

   I want you to realize that these are the
withdrawal behaviors that take place, and I want
you to become aware of how they work.

   If you want to learn more about these specific
withdrawal situations, or would like insight into
why this happens and what this reveals, then I
highly recommend you check out my program,
From Casual To Committed. It's the best place
to understand the commitment process for a man,
and how to effortlessly move things from casual
and light to a committed, emotionally fulfilling
relationship:


http://www.CatchHimAndKeepHim.com/e/13842/FCTC/

  
STEP TWO:

   Understand how his behavior affects YOU and
learn to master your response:

   I want you to take out a piece of paper right
now and write down the thoughts that came to mind
as you read this.

   First write down, in detail, what it is that
the guy you are with, or your ex, did in the past
to withdraw.

   Then, once you've done this, describe how the
distance or withdrawal made you FEEL inside.

   I'll give you a minute.

   Ok, now that you've got your thoughts down,
there's a second step after identifying how
withdrawal takes place...

   Our minds have a tricky and destructive habit
that leads us to make faulty and negative
associations between what happens in the world
around us and the personal meaning we give to them
inside.

   Let me give you an example...

   You probably know people who are convinced that
they have terrible luck, so when anything happens
they think, "Of course, I'm such an unlucky
person..."

   These kind of people have a very negative view
of everything that happens to them because they
see themselves as someone to whom only bad things
happen.

   I call this "Limiting Beliefs", and we all have
some version of this that fits our own fears and
life experiences.

   Right now, you're going to identify some of your
own Limiting Beliefs around what it means to
YOU when a man withdraws or acts distant.

   That way, you can better understand and make
good choices if it happens with a man again.

   Following me?

   Good.

   So what is the feeling you had when you think
back to when a man withdrew from you?

   Picture it in your mind.

   Now, take that negative feeling and find the
"internal state" that it created inside you, which
was the general emotional state that you felt.

   Realize that the feelings you had, and the
state you were in, were a result of YOUR OWN
BELIEFS about what the man's behavior meant.

   But here's the thing...

   Our beliefs are NOT often the "reality" of the
situations we're in.

   In other words, a man's behavior DOES NOT have
to equal a negative reaction or feeling inside
YOU.

   Read that line above again.

   Good. Now...think about the negative belief
inside your own head that created the negative
feeling or reaction inside you.

   What was that belief?

   There might be more than one.

   Take several minutes and write it down.

   I'll give you another minute...

   So here's the whole point. It SOUNDS simple,
but it isn't. It's very powerful...

   I want you to try and remain AWARE of the
Limiting Belief that you have and that you have
identified, so you can start to "un-link" the
faulty judgments and reactions that these Limiting
Beliefs will try and make for you subconsciously.

   And once that happens, you'll start to have your
mind "freed up" to make new, productive choices
that will naturally bring a man closer to you and
make him start connecting with you.


THE CRITICAL "NEXT STEP" TOWARDS IMPROVING YOUR
LOVE LIFE...FOR GOOD

    We just did a quick exercise that can bring a
lot of real, positive changes to you and any
relationship you have...including a relationship
with a man.