The Truth About Sex Dreams
What your naughty dreams really mean
Had any good dreams lately? You know, the kind that leave you all hot and bothered... or utterly confused and even disgusted! Sometimes it's Brad Pitt, sometimes it's the UPS guy, and sometimes it's your creepy co-worker in the cubicle behind you!
We all get those dreams of the spicier nature and we all wonder why the heck we would dream such a thing. Well let me tell ya sister, friend... these dreams are not what you think. In fact, they are quite good for you!
Sex dreams are rarely about a physical union you want but rather a psychological union you need. As you well know, sex is the ultimate union between two people; it is the means by which two separate individuals join together and become one fine tuned and well-oiled machine... so to speak. Therefore, the dreaming mind will use the act of sex to let you know that you need to unite a particular quality or skill of your dream lover into your own self in order for YOU to become a well-oiled and fine tuned machine in your life.
For example, take the creepy guy in the cubicle behind you, the one you are now totally embarrassed to be around because of that steamy romp in your dream last night. There's something about him that your inner mind, which expresses itself through your dreams, wants to take in to your personality. Maybe he's a whiz with all things technical, or perhaps the boss really likes him. Whatever it is, your sex dream is letting you know that you need to unite his skills into your own self so that you will be a new and improved you! The message of this dream would be: take on this guy's technical savvy, or adopt his "can do" attitude. Make it your own.
Here's a good rule of thumb to follow in helping you figure out why you're having naughty dreams about you-know-who: Pick three words that come to mind when thinking of your dream lover; what qualities, skills or attitudes stand out about him... or her (admit it, we all get those girl on girl dreams sometimes)? Once you've got 'em, apply them to yourself. Could adopting one of these qualities or skills as your own improve your life right now and improve who you are? You'll probably find that the answer is a resounding yes!
Remember, it's not that you desire their bod... deep down, you actually desire what you feel is missing within you.
Oh, and what about those certain kind of dreams about Brad Pitt? You know what Freud says, "Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar," so enjoy, honey!
Cheating Dreams
Worried about that spicy dream you or your mate had about someone else? There's no cause for alarm. These lusty dreams are actually tools that can fan the flames in your relationship! These dreams serve a purpose; they offer direction, advice, and sometimes even warnings.
Did you know that in the Middle Ages sex dreams were believed to be an actual attack by a sex demon?! A male sex demon was called an Incubus and a female sex demon was called a Succubus, which is where we get the word succulent!
Adultery Dream #1: Your Mate Is Cheating
Maybe you feel s/he has taken on a behavior or attitude that is detracting from your relationship or is spending too much time and attention on something that does not involve you. The subconscious mind feels "betrayed" and responds with an affair dream in order to get your attention so you can deal with the matter at hand. Too much time at work is the usual culprit.
Fan the Flames by...confronting your mate about the core issue. Discuss what is bothering you and talk about ways to compromise or resolve the problem.
Adultery Dream #2: You Are Having an Affair
Are you the one spending too much of your time and focus on something that does not involve him? Your dream may be alerting you to how he feels, "cheated" out of your time and attention. New moms often get this dream, by the way! A new baby doesn't leave much room for lovin'.
Fan the Flames by... finding a way to let him know he is needed, appreciated and desirable! Maybe it's time to take yourself on a shopping trip to Victoria's Secret, break out a Tony Bennett CD and get some very special one on one time... wink, wink!
Remember that in dreams, all forms of unions, dating, marriage, sex and adultery point to something that is missing in your life. Pay attention to what these strange little scenarios are trying to show you and you'll be amazed at the way your love life starts to sizzle!