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From: MSN NicknameSilken2004  (Original Message)Sent: 7/11/2006 6:07 AM
Sexual dreams
 
People are often worried because they've had dreams with a sexual content. In particular, it can be very disturbing if, in a dream, you do something that would be totally shocking for you in real life! For instance, a woman who leads an extremely chaste and respectable life may be troubled by dreams in which she has rampaging sex with dozens of handsome males.

Similarly, a man who prides himself on being 'straight' and who dislikes homosexuals, may be quite shattered to find that he has dreams in which he is engaging in sexual fondling with some good-looking guy!

However, a lot of people are not disturbed by their sexual dreams and simply enjoy them for what they are. This is normally the best attitude to take.

Why do we have sexual dreams?
We dream because of the intense activity that is constantly going on in our subconscious minds. And since sex is one of the most powerful of all human drives, it's not surprising that so many dreams have a strong sexual content.

If we have deep urges to do certain things, they are highly likely to come out in our dreams - where our consciences cannot prevent them happening.

But isn't it true that our consciences 'censor' sexy dreams?
Yes. The mind has something called a 'dream censor', which tends to 'clean up' dreams.

So, if a person who has a very strict puritanical outlook starts to have a sexy dream, their dream censor will alter that dream so that very 'rude' things are replaced by symbols.

Thus, a man of strict morals may have a deep, unconscious desire to have sex with beautiful women. Instead of dreaming about vaginas, he will keep dreaming about tunnels and subways. Instead of dreaming about breasts he will dream about pleasant hillocks and mounds - and so on.

Similarly, a woman whose sexual morality is very strict won't dream of penises. Instead, she'll dream of penile symbols, like:

  • church spires
  • rockets
  • cigars
  • tall chimneys.

    However, in our experience, this kind of 'dream symbolism' seems to be less common than it used to be. People are less 'hung up' than they were a generation or so ago - which is why they tend to dream about explicit sex rather than symbols.

    Do people have orgasms in dreams?
    Definitely! Women don't do this very often, but it does happen - especially at times when they're 'highly charged' sexually.

    When we were writing our book The Big 'O' (Hodder: 1995), a sizeable number of women reported to us that their first ever orgasm was in a dream.

    However, it's more common for women to get very excited during a dream - and then to wake up on the brink of orgasm and 'finish themselves off' by self-stroking.

    What about men?
    Most males (though not all) have many erotic dreams in their teens, 20s and 30s. The frequency of these dreams tends to get less with age, but a lot of sexually-charged males continue to experience pleasant erotic dreams far into their 60s and 70s.

    In men, erotic dreams are very commonly 'wet dreams' - in other words, ones in which the guy reaches orgasm and ejaculates.

    This can be quite an embarrassment for a young man, especially if he keeps on staining the sheets. But there is nothing that can be done to stop wet dreams. If stains are a problem, it's best to wear shorts in bed.

    Are wet dreams harmful?
    A lot of young men who are of Asian extraction believe that they are. But this is quite untrue. Wet dreams are just the body's natural response to its hormones - much as periods occur in women.

    What should you do about disturbing sex dreams?
    Most sex dreams are fun, and should just be enjoyed. Sometimes they involve activities that you may feel you'd never get up to in real life - like lesbianism or homosexuality. But this doesn't matter.

    However, some people do get very distressing sex dreams - about such disturbing subjects as incest or rape. If this keeps on happening to you, then there must be some psychological reason behind it.

    If you are upset by these dreams, and you want to find out the reason for them, then it would be best to consult a therapist. Traditionally, those therapists with analytic backgrounds have been more in tune with - and experienced in - people's dream worlds. But some hypnotherapists are adept at helping a person gain control of their dreams by 're-designing' them during hypnosis so that they end differently and are therefore less disturbing.

  • Dreams of love
    Sometimes people have dreams where they are being taken care of, or loved very deeply, or cuddled - dreams that are not overtly sexual but which leave the dreamer feeling very drawn to the person in the dream who was being so affectionate.

    These dreams can leave an individual feeling very shaken up and confused because often the 'love interest' in the dream is not a regular partner.

    In my experience, these dreams can tell us a great deal. I believe they are often there as some manifestation that all is not entirely well with our current relationship. They often express a hankering for a loving experience that is absent from a marriage or long-term relationship.

    If you have this kind of dream and feel disturbed by it, you may want to see a relationship therapist to explore why you are having these dreams. Of course we all have dreams in which incongruous things happen with people we are not attached to in real life, but when these dreams haunt our waking moments through the next day and beyond, it is wise to take note of the possible message behind them.


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