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| | From: Jðdý (Original Message) | Sent: 12/5/2008 3:17 PM |
Wednesday I was informed that I was being investigated for abuse from one of my clients. My spirit is shattered. I would never! I love them so much, and have done everything in my power to help them, to be the best voice for them I can. This goes back to about a month ago, when I posted about needing a reading about a work situation. Here's the story. One of the managers where two of the girls works is verbally abusive. The girl that is accusing me came out crying one day, and told me that ****** had called her a bitch. I was livid! I immediately contacted my supervisor, she in turn contacted Cruella (executive director). Since it was the end of the day Friday, she said to meet with her Monday morning, which we did first thing as I was in action mode. I was told that my only roll was support, that if she wanted to sit down with this manager, and voice her concerns, I would go with her, and that is it. No calls to the state to report this nothing! If she, the client didn't want to talk with said manager, I was to do nothing else. The client declined a meeting with the manager. She has downs syndrome, and can barely speak legibly, and in no way has the guts to confront this woman, whether I am with her or not. This is where I almost left out of frusteration at my hands being tied, and also thinking that if I was not employed there, I would actually have more freedom to deal with this woman myself. But I stayed, being employed myself right now, is pretty vital right, but I took the matter into my own hands, Jody style, and things have gotten better for the girls. This manager knows I am watching her every move. Not one more word of this has been mentioned this entire past month, until I go into work Wed, and am told that I have been reported for calling this client a bitch. How's the irony level there huh? I don't know if it was a communication problem. Perhaps she was telling the other staff member the story. The word bitch came out, the name Jody came up, since I was involved, and this staff member jumped to conclusions? I don't know, all I know is I almost left my job because someone called her that name, and now I find myself being accused of the same, by the person I was trying to protect. They asked her several times if I did it, she keeps telling them yes. I am not allowed to speak to her, nor drive her anywhere, or be in any situation where I am alone with her. Just the day before I picked her up at work, she ran up and gave me a huge hug. She tried to talk to me yesterday, and give me a hug, and I had to tell her, I couldn't. She looked so sad. It broke my heart. I just don't know why she would say that about me. I am the person she trusts most. She comes to me for everything, and I have done everything within my power to protect her. Now this :( I am depleted guy's. I have no zest for anything. I don't know what's going to happen. I have to think that everything happens for a reason, and I finally got to tell my story to OIG. (They investigate abuse cases) Now I will feel the wrath of Cruella, since it came out she did nothing. But it will all be worth it if she is found out. I am also feeling the negativity from other staff members. Like they think I could actually do that? It hurts. Sorry to be a drag gang, but I have been dealing with this alone now, and just had to talk about it. Thanks for listening Sad J |
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Oh Jody!!! I feel so very much for you!!! Before I go further let me see if I can post! |
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*oh joy* I haven't been ABLE to post on here for some reason lately, thought I'd give it a go tonight and LOOK what I see straight away!!! I send to you SO much warm Love Jody, you are a beautiful person, who made me feel at Home here straight away and attract to YOU and HERE, OTHER wonderful people! :o) I honestly believe that this wasn't done out of spite, just total misunderstanding!!! You were never meant to be HURT intentionally, and I know you realise this, but it doesn't make your pain go away any less!!! I see within you an ABUNDANCE of Light, Love and Joy Jody, , , , such pureness, DON'T allow others to bring you down gal!!! Ever!!! There are ALWAYS going to be those that wish you ill, want you to fail, want to see you Go Down BUT, YOU are a Child of the Goddess and the God, your realisation of all that is happening, shows that you're onto ALL of it; you took the first steps and the Devine HONOURS chutzpah!!! Much Kudos to ya Hun!!!
All will be as it was meant to be, I see NOHING coming of this, because whilst YOU have been targeted, You Area Manager ( ass muncher ;). !!!! ) Knows ultimately SHE should have done the right THING!!! Straight up! And when she blames this on you, the Universe knows your Heart, and Soul, and will Protect you Threefold. . .
I hope you're feeling a touch better at this time, You're in my Thoughts Dear One!!! |
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Thinking of you Jody. As Just me mentioned Love always wins and that you have lots of. hugs Pearl |
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Jody Do you think she said that? Does she get upset with people telling her not to do something and want to get even,you said she did this to another person and you took up for her. I think everyone is getting to know this girl with down better,and all will be well with your job. Hurt feeling Im not good with dealing with that,but maybe she really does not think it hurts your feeling just makes her importion to have people giving her so much attatention. Big Hugs Jody. Much Love Linda |
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Jody, dear dear Jody, I can't even imagine how devastated you feel right now..but since you talked to the OIG hopefully it will be resolved, she will be found out and you can go on as usual. Do not feel alone..I may not be posting much but I do read the important things..and this is one of them.... Keeping positive thoughts for you and love and light sent your way.. Hugs and Love Silver |
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| | From: Jðdý | Sent: 12/9/2008 2:57 PM |
Thank you all for the light and love you have sent. I have felt you, and has helped me immensly. I meet with OIG in just over an hour. Whew, here I go. Bless you all |
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oh Jody......seems it never ends.......must be about the time you are in that meeting.....sending positive thoughts your way....may the outcome be for the greatest good for ALL......hugs! M~ |
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| | From: Jðdý | Sent: 12/9/2008 10:57 PM |
Well unofficially it is over. It won't be official until he has his report completed. I should have that in 1 to 2 weeks. He told me off the record, that I had nothing to worry about. She also admitted she had lied. Oh man, what a roller coaster ride this week has been. It sure drives home just how vulnerable we are in this field. I don't know how I feel anymore. Mostly just numb, which greatly diminishes my capabilities to be the advocate I was a week ago. Sad, just sad. Thank you all again for your support |
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just passin through the house quick and had to log on to see what the update was.......of course I knew you would be in the clear......what I am wondering is what that report will say about the exec director????? was there any mention of that today...will that come out in the report......I continue hope for the greatest good for all in this matter..and know that I feel for ya......kinda makes ya rethink about how you do your job......sad that you can't lead with your heart......hope you are feeling some relief tonight......take care buddy! love ya! M~ |
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I had no doubt you would be cleared Jody, your Heart and Voice speaks volumes. It must truly be a hard industry, trying to help but sometimes feeling like you're losing. But know we all go through the same problems, just different content! Hold your head high Jody, you've done nothing wrong. Don't let others dictate how you work/play. I know Life's a stresser and sometimes you wonder if it's all worth it, but I believe in you, and hey I don't even fully KNOW you! Hahahahahaaa But from what I've seen, Ya rok girl!!! *hold ya head and heart high* Laharet Lia Sekhmet )O( |
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| | From: Jðdý | Sent: 12/10/2008 2:38 PM |
Good morning everyone, Well M, he said that his department cannot do anything about that, and that said manager "of the girls" is not under the same rules and regs as us, who directly work for the state. Being the Inspector General/s office that struck me as odd. I would think they would cover abuse under any circumstance, but it seems Cruella was right. She was strangely supportive with me yesterday. I even got a sympathetic pat on the back, and she told me I handled myself very well. I guess to take matters into my own hands with the girls, I would have to file a complaint with her district manager, but now, I don't know what to believe. I don't know, I just don't know. I'll continue to moniter. Lia, thank you for your trust love. |
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later on downthe road a wee piece Jody the numb becomes an ally and your abilities as an advocate actualy become's stronger. you are doing really well as themain objective in this lesson i to be bl to keep your own objectivity. At times it becomes seriously hard to remember who is actually the sick peeps. Its good she admitted lying...it doesnt always go that easy especially if u star dealing with psychotic personalities. Love ya sis. |
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| | From: Jðdý | Sent: 12/11/2008 2:23 PM |
Thanks Blue, I do hope your right, because honestly I am about ready to start looking elsewhere after the holiday's. This has changed me, and not for the better. I heard yesterday the girl that did this, thinks it's all a big joke, and said... I can't talk to Jody, started laughing, and said "and I don't care".*more laughter* but yet, waved at me later in the day, and looked sincere. We have all levels of disabilities, so I have delt with the psychotic as well. I think I prefer that. It did no damage to my heart :( Thanks for caring |
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trust me Jody stay doin what yer doin and you will have the distinct pleasure of watchin the cutest lil things turn into the most evil lil daemons u could imagine nd then in the blink of an eye ,,,like nothin actually ever happened they become all sweet again like nothin happened. especially when they know yer looking and another victim is looking on. But I can also tell you this... it will never make you heartless. It will just make u a more viable caretaker until of course you burn out... May I sugest you take the kids on hollidays lol. Glad yer ok |
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