Stay strong Capt. The hardest part (honest) is done...filing. Also a been there done that divorce thing. Now you need to steel yourself against the onslaught of guilt and whatever he thinks he can use on you to get you to change your mind. And he will and by any means.. including the nasty stuff. Deep Breath kiddle. You are ok. Obviously you have given this alot of thought...and for a very...very long time...you've discovered that your freedom of spirit is more important than the hell he has given you. This is where you find out who your true friends are...and they are his and hers...as I am sure you have already found out. HUG. It's ok hun...you will get through this... promise...and you will be a stronger person for it. If you need to talk to another divorced and remarried
female...just shout out. I also think that talking to a therapist may be helpful... Just know you are not alone... ever. Sending hugs and bright light your way... all you need do is reach out and take it if you need it. Bright blessings hun.