How Our Loved Ones Contact Us and Why

 

 

CHRISTINE MARIE DUMINIAK
Author of "God's Gift of Love: After-Death Communications"

 

 

My prayer for everyone here tonight, is that you all will feel God's love, His peace, comfort and healing in your hearts today and everyday of you re lives.

Back on March 19, 1998, I had just finished reading my first book by a medium. It was James Van Praagh's "Talking to Heaven;" and I mentioned this wonderful book to a friend. I said I was open to this.

WELL...That very night, my in-laws-in-spirit spontaneously showed up in my bedroom and stayed for an hour! Nothing like this had every happened to me before! I went on a quest to find out more about this.

I found out that millions of people have received one type of ADC at least (which is a direct after-death communication), and that even the Vatican has confirmed that ADC's do happen to people.

I found so many who were desperate to receive an ADC too. I felt the pain of these grieving people, and eventually the Holy Spirit led me to establish Prayer Wave for After-Death Communication, where the bereaved could come and ask for prayers to receive an ADC, and where anyone could discuss their spiritual experiences in a safe environment without the fear of ridicule.

A lot of learning was taking place by sharing our experiences there. Over time it became very apparent that prayers really do make a difference in getting an ADC, because our Prayer Wave group was getting an abundance of ADC's!

Eventually I felt a calling to write a book (God's Gift of Love: After-Death Communications) about these ADC experiences, in order to spread the word that there were about 20 common ways we get spiritual signs from our loved ones, and I wanted people to know that this was one of God's ways of comforting those who mourn.

Our prayer group people were getting ADC's through: Dreams, visions, pets, audio, music, God-incidences, telepathic thoughts, scents, touches, feeling or sensing a presence, electrical manipulations with computers, phone calls, answering machines, caller ID'S, photos and pictures, gifts, coins, birds, animals, insects, numbers, candles, rainbows, shooting stars and cloud formations.

Most people long to see and talk to their loved ones again. Since visions are not that common, the next best thing would be a dream visit. Dreams are a frequent and beautiful way that our loved ones visit us.

If you desire a dream visit from a loved one, please ask God every night before you go to bed to allow a dream visit; ask to remember the dream; ask for God's protection before you go to bed too; and keep a pad and pen nearby to write down the dream before you fully wake up.

Please be patient in waiting for God to answer your prayer.

If you receive a very vivid dream where you actually feel like you are seeing or talking to your loved ones, this is a real spiritual visit from them! So thank God and your loved one! This is so if the dream was comforting though.

If you have been getting disturbing dreams of your loved one, whereby they look sickly, or in pain, or are ignoring you, this is not an ADC from them at all. Even if it looks like them!

For God sends them to us for the purpose of comforting us. Not to make us feel badly.

From my many years of experience in this area, I have found that if this is happening to you, just faithfully say that prayer of protection before bedtime and this should stop for you.

It will also help with nightmares too.

Since I am a Catholic, I ask for Jesus protection and bind and rebuke Satan. No matter what faith you are, just trust and pray to God and it will afford you much protection.

Meditation: If you pray and meditate to God, this can put you in that "twilight" state and gives God a chance to talk with you. Your loved one may even come through at this time too! Keep a notepad and pen nearby to record this.

Again, it is important to ask for God's protection before you begin meditating, and important to do this at intervals during the meditation, because we are open to all types of spirits visiting us then, just like in our dream state. And you want a pleasant experience.

Why does God allow our loved ones to contact us and give us signs?

He is trying to bring comfort to your grieving heart, so you will understand that your loved one does live on can still see and hear you, and faithfully follows your life; that they are 'OK!' They will try to help you where they can.

Because they can still see and hear you, it is never too late to talk to them; to say all those things you may not have gotten a chance to say while they were in human body, such as I love you, thank you, I forgive you, please forgive me, good-bye.

So please keep up the communication, for they love it! You may even find it helpful to journal or to write them letters.

Recognizing an ADC: Most ADC's are subtle, so it is important to know the many ways they use to visit us, and not to discount anything that catches your attention! If you re first thought is, "I think I just got an ADC!" Then please go with that first thought, for they put that thought into your head so that you will notice!

Don't bother to analyze it, just claim it! Enjoy it and thank God and your loved one for that ADC gift to you.

You will find that they will repeat their particular style of ADC because they know that you will "get it" if they do. Later they may branch out to more types of ADC's.

I know many hearts here are suffering. I urge you to turn your heart's sorrow over to God for He truly wants to comfort you. Just ask Him to replace your heart's sorrow with the joy you want in it and that He wants for you too! Trust that He will do this for you, and He will really help to take your pain away.

 

  Is it common that after a few years have gone by, that the ADC's become less frequent? And if so, why?     

 

 If they become less frequent it would be perhaps you are not in need of them as much, because you have gotten through the worse part of your grief. 

 

  Isn't it true that some people want their loved one back with them, as they used to be, so much so that they don't even recognize the signs or communications when they happen?

 

Yes, some are so consumed with grief, that they don't notice "outside of themselves" and their thoughts, to even notice that their loved one is desperately trying to say Hi to them!

That is why peace and acceptance is so important, because when you come to that stage, you are not so consumed with your own feelings of grief, but can look outside of yourself, and your energy is positive and light. It makes it even easier for them to come through to you. With ADCs you have to be open to the possibilities and the adventure of it...haaaa.

 

 

They can immediately start to do this. :) It is great when they can. My dad only took 2 hours to say hi after he passed. I was really surprised! But I know others who even came sooner! They travel very quickly to the heavens and then get an orientation, and if they are quick learners they can come right back to us! Also, they need to learn how to communicate this way again too :)

 

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The spiritual events in Christine's life led her to establish an Internet grief support and prayer group known as Prayer Wave For After-Death Communication. She has also written 'God's Gift of Love: After-Death Communications.'

Christine has been a featured guest on the New York TV Show 'The God Squad' and is a frequent guest on talk radio, a speaker on afterlife contacts, as well as hosting her own seminars and workshops.

Besides grief support, Christine is a hospice volunteer, a reflexologist, and a reiki energy healer.

For more on Christine Marie Duminiak and her work, visit her web site at: http://www.geocities.com/adcfriends