Spiritual Teacher, Healer and Clairvoyant
MICHAEL J TAMURA
Author of "You Are The Answer"

 

First, I would like to open the space for this “talk�?with a little prayer. 

Please give yourself a moment to turn your awareness inward to your inner self and validate the source of your very being. 

Our Eternal Father, our Divine Mother, our All-Giving Source,
We welcome you with our hearts open, our minds receptive and with a willing spirit,
We thank you for this beautiful opportunity to come together in consciousness,
To foster a spiritual community without walls all across this magnificent earth,
We ask you to bless this gathering of kindred, loving souls,
So that we may each learn to love You and one another more deeply,
That we may grow in every way to have You as our true reality,
Help us to fulfill the true purpose for which You have created our life.
And so may it be, amen.

An anniversary serves as a reminder for us of a profound, transforming event in our lives. At times such an event might be a joyous one, such as the birth of a baby or a wedding.

At other times, the commemorated event may have brought about much pain, such as in the case of 9/11. Yet, even in the most horrific of events, we can honor and celebrate the profound transformation that such an event has brought about in our consciousness and life.

Although the “war against terrorism�?has stolen the headlines since 9/11, the fact that “terror�?has become a household word throughout the world �?even in America, the land of milk and honey, of golden opportunities, where big dreams become great realities �?is an extraordinary signpost that humanity as a whole has now entered into it’s final stages of healing and evolution.

For just as in educational curriculums, and in our school of life, we have saved the most challenging lessons for last. And the most difficult lesson that the human soul needs to learn concerns that intense emotion we call “terror�?

Throughout our history there have been individuals who have passed this final exam and graduated from the school of reincarnation.

Yet, this is the first time that the whole class of humanity has elected to undergo this test. Passing a final exam is never easy. But the solution to the test is utterly simple.

First, take a deep breath.

Notice how that experience was for you.

Now, instead of taking a deep breath, would you consider GIVING yourself a deep breath? Do you notice a difference between the two?

Isn’t the second way much more relaxing, gentle and effortless? Giving always brings about more wholeness and peace, whereas taking produces effort, competition and tension.

Life continuously gives to life. When we approach life in a giving way, we step into the stream that is life and become one with it.

When we come from a place of taking or trying to get something in life, we swim divided against the stream and become isolated.

Isolation and the profound psychic pain of loneliness borne of that division from unity, underlies each of our experience of terror. When we separate ourselves away from the wholeness, the oneness that is life, we spin out of control into terror.

We then frantically seek any way that brings us even a temporary appearance of control and uniformity.

The human soul has used its innate intelligence and creativity for countless millennia to cover this terror of loneliness. We have learned to lie, cheat, steal and even kill in order to avoid facing this underlying isolation.

The healing of humanity has been the gradual peeling away of the layers of denial and unconsciousness to awaken to our self-imposed isolation. Instead of declaring a war on terror, we must now surrender our terror of loneliness, and be open to the oneness that is life and spirit.

We cover our loneliness by assigning cause and reality to someone or something else for our experiences.

“If only he were more understanding…�?

“If she didn’t behave this way we would get along better…�?

We also strive to be, do, or have those things, abilities and attributes that we believe would make us acceptable to others so that we would not be rejected or abandoned.

“If only I were more attractive…�?

“I should have been smarter…�?

“I’ll try harder…�?

Yet, by covering our loneliness, we distance and divide ourselves even more.

To heal the terror within us, we must learn to fill in the holes of ignorance and restore ourselves to wholeness.

We must return to the oneness of our being. And the way to do this has been readily available to each of us all along: practicing The Golden Rule.

Jesus taught us to “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.�?

Buddha taught the Golden Rule in the receptive mode of “Do not do to others what you would not want them to do to you.�?

The Jewish faith provides a similar instruction for conduct. I have not met an adult who did not know of the “Golden Rule�?in one form or another. Yet, I rarely see one who truly practices it correctly.

Putting the Golden Rule into practice, is less about the actual doing or not doing, and much more about where you are coming from in doing or not doing them. It is the practice of developing your relationship space.

Often I observe people trying to do to others literally what they want others to do to them. A simplified example would be a person who gives chocolates to everyone because he would like it if everyone gave him chocolates.

Of course, he wouldn’t do well to give a wonderful box of chocolates to someone who is deathly allergic to chocolates, would it?

According to the Golden Rule that would mean that he would like to have people give him things that would potentially kill him.

I’m sure most of you know people who regularly give to others the very gifts they want for themselves, assuming that because they like those gifts, their recipients would also. But this isn’t the true way to follow the Golden Rule.

First, to not do to others what you wouldn’t want them to do to you, is really about giving space to them instead of about “not doing�?something.

Give a person enough space to be right where she happens to be.

It means validating the spirit of the person and giving her permission to be. “Doing�?takes up space, so we need to first give some space before any “doing�?could even happen.

“Do unto others what you would have them do unto you�?means that you first treat the inner spirit of others the way that you would like to have them treat your inner being.

For example, if you happened to be an avid skydiver and felt no fear of jumping out of an airplane, it doesn’t mean telling a terrified first-timer that it’s easy to jump out.

It means that you have to first discover what terrifies you just as much as jumping out of a plane terrifies that person. Then, you’ll know what that person is going through inside and then you could ask yourself how you would want someone to treat you when you are in that similar condition.

Once when I was undergoing an excruciatingly painful healing treatment, I realized that the only difference between this treatment and being tortured was the space that the healer was coming from.

This particular healer was ever so gentle and compassionate �?had it not been for that, the actual physical treatment could have just as easily and effectively been a torture technique.

Likewise, I’ve had people who did things that strictly on a physical level would have been considered wonderful, but because they were doing it from a place of resentment and punishment it became more of a nightmare.

Perhaps the most important aspect of “doing unto others…�?is setting up the space �?the consciousness and energy from which you relate to the other person.

Most people believe that where they are in relationship to another depends in part at least on the other person. But, in truth, what someone else does to you or how they treat you is not your problem �?that’s their problem.

Your problem, on the other hand, is how you respond to them.

You are completely in control of how you respond to another person.

Your relationship to someone is 100% yours, not the other’s. Your relationship comes from how you choose to relate to the other.

How many of you look to the other person in order to change/improve the relationship with him?

If only he were more this or less that? If only she could do more this or less that? If only he had less of this and more of that? Then, I would be so much happier or I could be so much more loving.

As long as you do so, your relationship isn’t going to fundamentally change or improve.

After all, what is it that you really want in the relationship?

What you experience as lacking in the relationship is not something lacking in the other person or in yourself, but in the relationship itself, isn’t it?

When you experience your relationship with that person, you find something wanting. It is the relationship space, namely your relationship space that you have to examine, not the other person, to fulfill this lack.

So, to “do unto others as you would have them do unto you�?requires that you first become clearly aware of what you would like to have in your relationship space.

It does not require that the other person change in some way first to become acceptable to you.

You need to choose the ingredients to put in your relationship space. And your relationship space is made up of various qualities of energy and consciousness.

For practice, pick one of your relationships that you would like to heal, to improve the conditions of.

What do you find lacking, not in the other person, but in the relationship itself?

What you find lacking is obviously what you would like to have more of in your relationship with that person, isn’t it?

Is it more understanding? Honesty? Clear communication? Kindness?

Once you start to discover what you would like to have more of in your relationship space, you must explore more deeply.

What do you mean by honesty or clear communication, for example?

If all you wanted was honest, clear communication, you would be delighted if your partner told you clearly everyday that he or she honestly felt that you were stupid and ugly.

Of course, that wouldn’t make your relationship a delight, would it?

So, it is a certain quality of energies and consciousness that you mean as honesty or kindness or clear communication, isn’t it?

And you can never want something that you don’t already have within you �?otherwise how can you know it and want it?

The energy and awareness of what you so desire in your relationship you already have abundantly within you. It’s just gotten run over and covered up. It’s time to resurrect those energies.

Imagine what those exact qualities of energy and consciousness are that you are seeking in your relationship. Start building up those energies �?decide what kind of energies you would like to have in your relationship space with respect to the other person.

Decide where you would like to be (what kind of energy and consciousness), in your relationship with that person.

Would you like to be in anger and resentment? In guilt or sadness? Of course not! You may want to be in kindness and fun instead.

So create those energies every time you even think of that person. Imagine what color and quality is honesty, playfulness, fun or kindness. Imagine what it feels like?

Don’t become the effect of the reactions that spring up automatically when you think of or meet that person.

Those are just reactions �?unconscious and automatic. Let those just be, don’t worry about them or try to solve or stop them.

Just don’t put any more energy into them that way. Instead, create more of the kind of response you would like to have in your relationship with that person.

If you are experiencing difficulties, or dissatisfaction in your relationship with someone, obviously your relationship space is no longer adequate.

Trying to relate in a new way through an old, dysfunctional relationship space is not going to produce a fulfilling relationship experience.

You must create a brand new relationship space through which you can relate to that person.

You must own that space as your space �?a space that you create in relationship to that person. That other person has no bearing on this space that you are creating.

You decide how you wish to relate to this person �?in what kind of energy and consciousness. The other person is bound to change because he is necessarily bouncing off of your relationship space to him.

He’ll have to either back off and give you much more space to be or he’ll start to match you and join you in the kind of relationship you are setting up.

If he completely backs out of the relationship, you’ll have space for many more people who would be willing to have the kind of relationship you dream of having. If he joins you, that’s what you wanted anyway. Either way, you’ll have your wonderful relationships.

Loneliness is the product of not relating correctly with the oneness that is life. That oneness is within your own being. When you turn to outside of that for fulfillment, you divide yourself even more into isolation.

When you turn to your inner being to give it fulfillment, even what used to appear outside of you comes to join with you.

No matter how someone else is to you, if you bring your relationship space back to yourself and respond the way you would like to have your relationship be, you would become the pied piper and lead the way to community of spirit and the experience of the oneness of all life.

There is no isolation or loneliness except in the fabrication of the mind.

May you go in peace,
May the Light of Truth shine upon your every step as you walk upon the path of life,
And the Love of Divinity lift up your heart in joyous celebration.
Amen.

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Michael J Tamura is a renowned spiritual teacher, healer and clairvoyant. He shares his unique wisdom in his award-winning first book 'You Are The Answer.' On his wonderful web site you will find information on private sessions, seminar recordings, as well as their free quarterly newsletter, 'Star of Peace.'

For more information on Michael Tamura, his book and his work, visit  http://www.michaeltamura.com