Inspirational Speaker
BARBARA ROSE
Author of "If God Was Like Man: A Message from God to All of Humanity"

 

It is an honor for me to be here with you tonight, to bring through the information that you can read and access at any time to help you always remember,  How to Move Forward When Your Heart is Torn Apart.

First, let me explain to you that it is always our perceptions of the events that happen in our lives that can either cause us to feel suicidal misery, or to see things from a Higher perspective, so that we can find the gift, and the lesson, behind the circumstances our ego is viewing, and move into Soul awareness.

This is not easy at first, however here is how to master this view and approach:

The first thing I learned is to go with what the Universe is showing me, and not cling to the past reality. When we cling to the past, and the wish it were the same, this is causing pain, and the pain continues as long as we are resisting what is NOW as opposed to seeking to find the gift behind the circumstance.

Now in order to truly move forward, I found that when I plunge into the Higher purpose and take positive action to create a better change, both for myself and for many others, this is what literally pulled me out of deep misery and heart wrenching pain, and brings me fully into the now moment, where I CAN make a difference, and evolve, at the same time staying focused on the purpose  behind  what is motivating me to go into the action that is transforming me, rather than linger on a past reality that only ego was holding on to.

For example:

I had a 4 year "relationship" while I was in pain most of the time. As a result of my heart being torn apart, I wrote a new book,  Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being The One  which took all of the tears and lessons to create positive change both for myself, and all of the future readers. This literally pulled me out of  misery  and into a Higher place within that was both inspiring and helpful, as well as authentically empowering.

You can write a song, or create a new law, or help raise awareness as a result of your deep pain.

When you do this, what you are doing is moving forward out of pain, and into authenticity and authentic empowerment, where your NEW perspective is filled with purpose.

It will cause you to rise, from within and be a beacon of hope both for yourself,
as well as for so many others that are going through the same pain, for the same or similar reasons.

I found that by moving into heart-centered purpose with a passion and commitment to share, uplift and help myself, naturally I would be helping so many others, which you can do too!

Guess what happened? I felt joy and the pain truly went away!

Had I lingered in the memories of the past, and not moved into a purpose, then I would still be in pain. So the KEY is soul and heart level purpose, and diving into that purpose in order to move forward, especially when your heart does feel torn apart.

This is the ONLY thing I have found that really worked, because it is coming from the inside out& it is genuine, empowering, stemming from the heart center, and as a result literally uplifts the heart center, both mine and also all of the people I come into contact with, even if it is only through a book or article.

 

When I was crying and miserable, I decided to FOCUS all of my mental focus on to writing, my website, my magazine, ANYTHING that would take my focus OFF the pain, and re-direct that mental focus onto the positive action before me that had a positive purpose.

The more I "worked" on something that I cared about; like writing a new book, articles, helping people, etc., the more my focus was OFF the pain, and the pain really started to diminish faster than I thought possible.

I had to literally force myself to focus my mind, and attention to positive service in any way I could, so that I was not stuck in bed in a fetal position crying my heart out.

I went down that road way too many times and it got me nowhere, so I learned from my writings, that all I had to do was force my focus on to my work, my purpose and THEN the pain started to diminish!

The hardest part is in the beginning when we are crying& but it's like a train when the wheels just start to move, the effect is the same. Soon we are out of  misery station  and moving into a Higher place within, because of the re-directing of mental focus on to something that has meaning in our lives.

Each day it gets a little easier, until one day' you will find, as I have found that the pain is gone! We've re-adjusted.

So to start, one needs to just take a breath, and change their routine a bit...and remember their passion and do just one thing in that direction...then everyday, do a bit more & and it doesn't have to be writing or creating a book...it can be cooking or sewing or reading to children or gardening or walking in a park...or whatever& everyday, simple things.

Just DO ANYTHING that has a purpose & focus your mind & and your energy on everything that has meaning to you. It doesn't matter if it's gardening, or writing, or volunteer work& anything that you can focus on where you feel a difference that you are making. THIS is what will fuel you to continue.

I had to FORCE myself. Then, as the weeks passed, I started to feel an inner shift. I started to come back to "the real me." It is too easy to languish in misery.

 

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Barbara is an internationally acclaimed public speaker and spiritual author of 'If God Was Like Man' and  Individual Power: Reclaiming Your Core, Your Truth, and Your Life. Her latest endeavor is as publisher of  inspire! Magazine.  The magazine is great, I hope you will check it out! For more information about Barbara Rose, her magazine and her books, visit her website at: http://www.borntoinspire.com