A long time ago, I used to babysit a little boy....His name was Dustin...We lost Dustin to SIDS when he was just 3 months old...
A friend of mine had a little boy almost the same age as Dustin...His name is Jeremy..Because we all knew each other and were good friends...we all attended the funeral....
I don't have to tell you how difficult that service was. I wondered how Dustins mom was going to handle a child there that was the same age as her son....It was open casket.....
There were 5 children there...from 3 months, to 7 years old..and I have to say in those moments of grief, having those kids there is the only thing that helped maintain some kind of sanity...Dustins mom is one of the most gracious, strongest women I've ever known...She even held Jeremy that day...
Jeremy is my godson..and he's 19 years old this year...We've discussed it before, and he doesn't recall any of it....I'm also in contact with those other 'kids'...None have any bad memories from that day...
Generally it is adults that fear death and dying...not kids...I think it depends on how you interact with your own children whether or not they should attend...If they see dignity, respect, and compassion, that's what they will take away with them....They will follow your lead..
Good topic..
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