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Should A Wife Leave Her Husband?

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1Co 7:13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.

The above scripture is perhaps what someone is looking for today......the answer...from God's Word...is all we need. The above scripture never says..that if he is beating you up ..and knocking you around that your supose to stay with him tho. It does say if he be pleased to dwell with her....for you not to leave him....but no where does it indicate for you to stay with someone who is abusing you ..in anyway...and unless it is a leading of the Lord himself...to stay ...even in abuse..then you should perhaps think about getting out of an abusive relationship, now I am not for divorce..or even seperation. Please don't misunderstand me...I am against abuse however. By the way abuse...isn't disagreement...Sometimes men go through things in their lives that we will never know about or understand..just like men don't always understand us as women...that is not a reason for divorce either. No one...the husband nor the wife should be hitting the other ...that is abuse...women can be just as abusive as men...I have seen it go both ways....in marriage each one should be doing good for the other...being for the other and not against the other..that goes even for those who are married to unsaved spouses...you did make a promise before God concering your spouse...and unless there is abuse...you should keep your promise as much as it is in you to do so. But remember...Divorce is not the unpardenable sin. So if you have divorced...rest in knowing that God is still God and he understands and even when we fail ..which we all do...He is just to forgive us our sins, everyone of them. And no I have not been divorced..I have been married for 38 years, and have had to forgive more than I can count, and get rid of pride. And yes..my husband was abusive...in every way. But, the Lord spoke to my heart for me to stay with him forgive him just as my Heavenly Father forgave me.... and walk in Love always. It isn't easy folks..but yes it was worth it..completely. Also, I have seen God work mightly in my husband's life...turning him around...and now he sees Jesus...and I see Jesus in him...God can do it folks...but it takes lots of love and trusting in the Lord. Hope this helps someone today who may wonder what the scripture says about a wife leaving her husband.

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Thank you LadyAnna this is very helpful.

I to tried to stay with my x husband who was abusive, not a christian. I believed in time through me he would yearn for God. It took our daughter being hit my my husband that made me leave him.

I was her only protection. I prayed and God gave me the way. He gave me a place to live.

God does provide for his children.

If a woman is not listening to her emotions or putting the enemys face on her husband, and if she is sensitive to the constant proddings and reassurances of the Holy Spirit, then day to day, when she shows her husband the servant attitude along with respecting him and letting her children see her Godly attitude in the face of persecution, she will not only be blessed, but her submission will honor God. There was a time when God had instructed me to keep serving, blessing and loving my husband but not to sit down and eat with him. I buttered his bread, and kept serving him and the boys saw me showing him respect even when he was very abusive. I waited for the constant regular instructions from the Lord and when I sensed danger, I trusted our lives to God. For years I have gone to the spouse abuse center and most of the young women that come there are abusing their husbands, being aggressive and yet portraying themselves to be this little helpless victim. I never ever let myself do two things. Blame my husband and put him in jail, and two, I never thought of myself as a victim. I knew my husband was under conviction and the nicer I was, the meaner he was going to get also. God never takes away our will. I waited on God to let me know when He had done His mercy's work and when it got down towards the end, God was protecting us from being killed when He moved in getting us away from him. Yes, my hip was smashed, and yes, I had to protect my sons from him, but the interesting thing is this. I raised my boys alone and my youngest never lived with him and yet even though I raised him in a Christian home, my son is exactly like his Dad and two of my sons have hurt me. My husband could sit in the front pew on Sunday and sing power in the blood and then get drunk and cock his gun over my head. This is not just a non Christian thing. Fourteen years went by when I married a minister and submitted also to him as unto the Lord and within two years, he was doing the same thing only being unfaithful and left me divorcing me in less then six weeks.

Abuse will cause God to allow a way of escape as long as you do not let emotions fog your thinking and trust yourself to God, He will make a way of escape. Just do not stay a victim, be bitter, unforgiving or think "YOU" have to do something! Wait on the Lord Christian or not. I still made love to my husband when ever he wanted me. I still served him and after he divorced me, I cooked the entire thanksgiving dinner and brought the boys up to his house, he kept the house, and they had dinner while I fed people at the nursing home. Bless those who persecute you and keep being a blessing whether you have to leave or not leave a unbeliever or a Christian ok? God did not have to forgive me for leaving, for divorcing or for any part of all I went through because His mercy was holding out for my husband and still is today. We are often victims of someone else's sin, but the odd thing is? We often are the only ones who "feel" guilty and accept condemnation.

I have never been sorry I knelt down and rubbed my husbands feet when he hurt me, and I think of Jesus and how much he loves these miserable souls and I am thankful HE has mercy... cause it triumphs over judgment.

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