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Just looking for a little advice or anyone who would like to share. I am getting married and I have moved my fid into his new home and out of my old place where the other residents screamed at my bird and threw beer cans and things at him if he made so much as a peep. Needless to say this did not make him a very sociable sort. He was willing to go to anyone when I got him but now trusts only me. I know quakers can become very bonded to only one person, but I would love him to be tolerant of my new family. They are all excited to have a bird in the home and they all love him and treat him well, but if I were ever to leave overnight, someone will need to get him fresh food and water and I don't think my bird will allow that. He is also extremely jealous of my fiancee and chirps in disapproval everytime we hug, kiss, or otherwise pay any attention to each other at all. He has been here for 2 weeks. Is my wish a hopeless one or will my new family never be accepted by my sweet baby fid? |
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Well, look how long it took to turn him into a frightened, angry bird...it's probably going to take just as long, if not longer, to reverse all that abuse. Parrots have long memories. Don't push him or rush. Everyone is going to have to be gentle and patient. Trust is hard work. You have to earn it. I just have to say that if anyone threw a beer can, etc., at my fid, I'd define abuse to them, up close and personal....and they'd have a beer can as a permanent part of their anatomy! And I don't give a *&%$# who it is or what the circumstances are. Glad you've gotten him out of that. Tell your fiance' to sit near the cage and talk quietly to him - maybe pass a favorite treat through to him, etc. Good luck and be patient. |
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I agree its going to take time-Birds are very adaptable--really they are--its just we can't get into their minds--we THINK we know what they want or need but sometimes they tell us different--What the bird lived with before was its life--and it may have actually LIKED it. My macaw was here when my kids were teens--he lived in the living room--as they grew we had people going through the house all the time--parties and whatever-Vin was an active particpant. Now they have moved on--Vin has a bird room--yet to this day he screams bloody murder to come out if he hears their cars , voices , or their friends voices. He WANTS to party--that was his life! If the door closes in the middle of the night--he wants pizza--he will start hollering IS IT GOOD?? He is Slowly adjusting to just living with the 2 of us(He finds us VERY boring!)--but he is a party animal who would gladly go back to the way it was. Katz |
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You Go Girl!!!! Give 'em a "He__ ya!!! I think we all feel the same way.
I had someone flick my Sparky's beak several years ago - and that person
wore a real pretty "bruise" for several days on his arm. It's the same
thing as punching a child in the nose. I don't know of anyone that would do
that - Ya all are right, our birds ARE our children.
Quakermom
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From: herbfolkes [mailto:[email protected]]
Sent: Friday, July 11, 2003 11:02 AM
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Subject: Re: My fids not happy with his new soon to be mommy. Help!
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Well, look how long it took to turn him into a frightened, angry bird...it's
probably going to take just as long, if not longer, to reverse all that
abuse. Parrots have long memories. Don't push him or rush. Everyone is
going to have to be gentle and patient. Trust is hard work. You have to
earn it. I just have to say that if anyone threw a beer can, etc., at my
fid, I'd define abuse to them, up close and personal....and they'd have a
beer can as a permanent part of their anatomy! And I don't give a *&%$# who
it is or what the circumstances are. Glad you've gotten him out of that.
Tell your fiance' to sit near the cage and talk quietly to him - maybe pass
a favorite treat through to him, etc. Good luck and be patient.
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