You have to keep in mind that they don't understand the essense of taking things personally because that part of thier soul is not intact. They cannot take blame so they cannot understand how we really feeel. Those feelings are not 'in' them.
Long ago I was told by someone Not to take it personally and not to try and control what I cannot:>)
I used to try so hard to make him see...I used to bang my head against the wall in frustration, and I used to take blame. Not anymore. Not one little bit do I think I did anything to him to cause his problems. For a long time I wondered what vitamin I might have missed out on in my pregnancy with him:>) What did I do to cause this? But now I know better. As much as I tried to bond with him as a baby and toddler he refused to have anything to do with bonding. He was like a leech...only wanting me when he was hungry.
I spent years trying to figure out why he is the way he is. I spent years trying to protect myself and others from him. Those kids can do alot of damage in a short period of time. And it is very hard to finally get to the point of not caring anymore:>) It is like you almost have to become a psychopath back (I mean with the 'unfeeling' part of things)
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