Coping with the Psychopath/Narcissist Child

My 15yr P was charged with assault, causing bodily harm, some months ago. He admitted what he had done and yet when we went to court he was advised to plead not guilty--I couldn't believe it. Anyway at his next appearance in court he was advised to plead guilty which he has. We had an appointment today with the youth justice team who were going to try to prevent him from having a Police record and work with him in looking at what he did and make him realise how wrong it was.( which is a joke with Ps) So guess what he did a few hours before this appointment----went out and didn't come home. I rang him and he simply said -------oh just get them to make another apointment-----I'm with my mates!!!!!! I was furious and rang them to apologise and their attitude was -----Oh don't worry we'll just make another appointment for next week. My P son really thinks he walks on water and no wonder. He now thinks its ok to assault people as there won't be any consequences.

Kel

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From:

pandora721

Sent: 15/04/2008 12:38 p.m.

Hi kell....so, back to the drawing board eh???.....you already went down this road, you know whats coming next...whether this one is the same as the other one.makes no difference really cos he is the one to face consequences and not you.if he can't be bothered to turn up.....thats his problem...if he thinks you are bothered about him turning up..he won't.

My granny used to say.kids will go their own way no matter what.and she was so right.

I tried so hard to get P here off the path she was on.she was around 14/15 when things kicked off....and all I did was turn my hair grey with worrying about her.she didn't need to worry cos I was doing it all for her.....I wanted P to get an education.she is a bright kid.she flunked everything apart from english.her first language...

I didn't want her to be a teenage mum.thats exactly what she did.....I wanted her to get a good job and provide herself with the means for a good living......she is on benefits......I wanted her to see the world.the only bit she sees is the local pub when she has some spare cash......

you can tell your kid forever and a day not to put his hand in the fire cos it will burn.they sometimes don't learn til they get hurt..sometimes this is the wake up call they need.

and, if it turns out this one is the same as the brother, don't beat yourself up.sometimes its just one of those things...I remember this one did look up to and idolise the brother???? hugs today for you.

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From:

kellomal

Sent: 15/04/2008 1:44 p.m.

Hi pandora,

Yes it would appear I am going down that familiar path again. I have made excuses for him for long enough now and I should know better. I just hoped it was a phase he was going through but its a lot more than that. He has been in trouble here with the Police about six times but it has never been his fault........I've heard it all before. He has caused me nothing but grief for the last yr doing all the things his bro done and again with no remorse at all. At least I have some knowledge this time and a hell of a lot of experience with Ps...just hope it will help me. My priority really is keeping the baby safe and I will at any cost

Kel

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From:

pandora721

Sent: 15/04/2008 6:50 p.m.

hi kel.so sorry for you re this......it was meant to be a fresh start for you.and this kid goes and gives you nothing but grief. Hope you can put things behind you and enjoy your baby....

hugs....

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From:

belrose777

Sent: 13/05/2008 5:00 a.m.

hi- you know blows my mind ?! my 14 yr old p son was charge was charged with causing bodily harm to my hubby and me-this is the great part - here in Texas we were legally required to provide our son with a lawyer. ????????????!!!!!!!

sorry for your pain and chaos, Kel, we can pray for ourselves too :) belrose777

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From:

pandora721

Sent: 13/05/2008 6:59 a.m.

bel.that just adds insult to injury......it never ceases to amaze me how the accused always seems to come out smelling of roses and we end up paying.and then being blamed in the next place cos we raised these kids.........madness!

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From:

kellomal

Sent: 13/05/2008 8:59 a.m.

Hi Belrose,

That is unbelievable and so unfair----like Pandora said---madness!

Kel

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From:

belrose777

Sent: 18/05/2008 3:28 a.m.

thanks guys- there was some good that came from it -if you're a victem of a violent crime the gov has bugeted money for what's called victems assistance-for us that ment our family , except for my p/n son who hurt us, could see a psycologist free-very cool since I have 5 yrold twin boys and a 6 yr old daughter who at times didn't know which end of the house to run to when if was chaotic. they got a chance to have their say and learn from the doc-Belrose777-God bless, we need it :)

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