I just joined and am wondering if I'm in the right group.  My 37 yr. old daughter has finally pushed my last button and I made the decision that instead of walking on egg shells when we are together, I've had enough.  She lives in another state, never has never been engaged, has a good job, but lots of issues with friendships.  I've taken verbal abuse, like "when we go inside to my friend's house, I don't want you to embarrass me."  That hurt a lot.  She is rude, feels superior, lacks compassion, feels entitled and is very selfish.  There has never been an issue of physical abuse.

 

The last straw was on her last visit a few days ago, she liked a new painting I inherited and wanted it.  I told her she couldn't have it.  The day after she left to return home, the painting was gone and another picture in its place.

 

I was crushed, angry and felt a lot of other emotions.  I called her, got the answering service and demanded that the painting be returned that day and I wanted a list of whatever else she stole.  I reinforced this with an email and told her our relationship was damaged, I felt I couldn't trust her any longer and was fed up with her lack of respect, and hoped that we could have a better relationship in the future.  When she responded, it was to say the painting was in the mail, there was no word of apology and she went on to let me know how I make her and everyone else crazy because I'm so demanding.  It ended with her telling me if I didn't want her in my life to say it.  I didn't respond because I think that is better than getting in a word brawl which will not end in any resolutions.

 

Her attitude began changing when she was around 16 and it's like she's not comfortable in her own skin--very restless and has to have everything on a strict time schedule and definitely has problems with coworkers and supervisors now.