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Hi I have a 20 y.o. son that we have had seroius problems with since a very early age. He was diagnosed ADHD at age 5 then bipolar at 14. We had him on meds until 18 when he refused to take them any longer. Aftr serious problems with him we got to the point of getting a restraining order against him, he still lives with us. He finally agreed to go to counseling and through that they gave him a test. We just found out last night that he has this disease. I dont know what to do about it. All I have read is that its the parents fault they have this. I pray this group can help me. Thanks Crazy |
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| | From:  femfree | Sent: 14/07/2008 6:58 p.m. |
HI C. I would highly recommend that you know that bi-polar is very like Ns or Ps- especially in the manic phase. Heredity? At this child's age - let's stop fixing the blame and start fixing the problem. Yes, it's often hereditary, but for those who are dealing with the consequences either way, it's boundaries or these people will steamroller you out of their way causing horrible devastation financially and psychologically until you step up to protect yourself. Firstly I would recommend that you read everything about this that you can and, if he isn't taking his meds, then it's time for him to leave. |
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| | | From: femfree | Sent: 14/07/2008 7:00 p.m. |
Please be sure to read our coping snapshots - on the left, as well as the other links and also, get to your local Mental Health association and let them give you information on these disorders and take classes on how to cope. My advice to you is to immediately stop engaging in "unconditional love". Narcissists sense blood where others see only love and altruism. If �?for masochistic reasons, which are beyond me �?you still wish to engage this young person, my chief advice to you would be to condition your love. Sign a contract with him: you want my adoration, admiration, approval, warmth, you want my home and money available to you as an insurance policy? If you do �?these are my conditions. And if he says that he doesn't want to have anything to do with you anymore �?count your blessings and let go. Omar al-Khayyam, the famous Persian poet once wrote: when you want to have the bird �?set it free.
Adolescent Narcissist A Case Study FAQ #16 By: Dr. Sam Vaknin
http://samvak.tripod.com/faq16.html |
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