Only kidding folks.  Ive not visited this site for a long time, hi to all my old buddies here.

 

My son was born angry at the world nearly 16 years ago.  He cried ALL the time for years and had a lot of fits, he also had a very big head.  Nobody would put the behaviour and the physical problems together and do any investigations.  He put me through absolute hell for nearly 15 years all in all.  When he was 11 I put him into care so they could see what he was really like, thanks to that he ended up being evaluated by a physicatric hospital and was given the diagnosis of social conduct disorder and it said that if this behaviour continues until 18, then he would have the diagnosis ASPD. 

 

He was locked up a few times for quite serious crimes but managed to abide by his licence rules on release until it was over before starting his tirade of hell again.

 

A year last April, he stole my car and wrote it off.  He was locked up for this but  a few days before he was locked up, he stole a brand new car from a garage forecourt and flipped it on its roof.  Somebody passing kicked the window through and cut him free from his seat belt and dragged him out unconscious.  The car was burning.  He had a nasty bang to the head and was bleeding from his ears also. 

 

After this, I had no contact with him for a long time but when he was released back into the care of social services, they kept telling me that he was a different child and doing really well but to me it was just another calm before the storm.  After this last episode, I hit the bottle really badly and ended up in AA on a 12 step programme.

 

My son had started visiting home prior to this and eventually moved back home a couple of months ago.  We were at my sponsers house a while ago and she asked him when he thought the change in his behaviour occurred and he replied after the bang on the head.  She has now mentioned a book to me that she is trying to find about disorders and the brain pressing against the skull causing problems and how a bang to the head can dislodge it.

 

Obviously, I am not telling anyone to go hitting their kids over the head and to be honest, I dont know wether this is what caused the turn around in his behaviour but I just live every day and make the most of how he is and pray to my higher power for his will for him and work my programme.  Life is good at the minute.

 

Have any of your children had problems with lots of fits as little ones, excessive crying for no reason as infants or overlarge heads.  Something to think about. 

 

Kazza