I don't think there is anything worse than the realisation that our own children have betrayed us in the most dreadful ways....the very people we have loved and nurtured and looked out for, protected and  guided throughout their lives and  sacrificed much for in order for them to live well.....and to come to the conclusion it was for nothing and meant little to them anyway.

Our group is unique.....everybody wants to blame us for the way our children turned out......but I believe they are who and what they are and were born that way. we didn't have the gift of hindsight in order to parent our difficult children in any other way.....we get to their adulthood and it finally dawns on us they are disordered........too late to go back and do anything differently anyway....not that it would make any difference to them but it would make life easier for us had we known what we were dealing with.