Hi Vera

I stumbled upon all this after my son went to live with the in-laws.  I read this board for 2 years before I posted anything.  Because the children I had trouble with were adopted, (but not blood related to each other) and my bio kids gave me no trouble, I felt a lot of unnecessary guilt that I was making a hidden distinction between them and CAUSING their bad behavior.  Plus, I felt that's what outsiders were saying too.  But if that was the case, why are there p/n kids in completely biol. families? 

Another reason I don't post too often, is now that they are out of the house, I don't want to stir things up within myself.  But I still feel like maybe I should encourage others.  So that's why I peek in. 

I use to think my son was "morally retarded".  Then I read in proverbs in the Bible that the definition of a fool is "one who is morally deficient:".  Since then, the proverbs that applies to "fools" give me more helpful advice than the verses about "children".