I thought this comment would be refreshing for all, I have posted it before... oh how I wish I had believed it!! The social worker who did our initial home study worked at a juvenile detention center and said some of those kids need: "bullet therapy".   The bed and breakfast I stayed in when we were adopting a child had a teen in long term therapy because she couldn't deal with her anymore.  Clues, signs... yes, but I wouldn't believe it.  I believe christians get beat up the most.  I just watched something on the prodigal son and had to turn the tv off.  Nothing is impossible with God, except their free will.  Their free will-without a conscience... what are we to do??  There is a time to speak, and a time not to.  A time to embrace, and a time to refrain.  You people here are the only ones who understand.  I am NOT an ogre for not speaking, for not embracing!