Fostermommy
You didn't give birth to this child
You have taken him in and I would imagine you have done your best for him
Please consider your other charges and the other children you have in your care in the future
I know it's hard - but from my experience - I would have done it differently
My ex and I adopted a boy and 36 hours after he was in our home I wanted to send him back - I felt there was something wrong with him and didn't want to have this happen
My ex wouldn't have it - so we kept him and formally adopted him and then had a biological child when he was two
If it was hard before she was born it was 10 times worse after
The trouble was I had to force myself to love him and after that I could not force myself to un-love him
And I did everything I could for him
And the years passed and he got worse and the short story is that after disrupting everyone's life he took his own in Juvenile Detention
So yes - I have regrets - the only good thing is that after I had made the commitment - I kept it and went further than the extra mile
So - I don't regret that I kept my promise - but until I die I wish I had never had him
I hate to be so brutal - but right now you are looking at a child no one wants -
So please - be careful - you are only his foster family - don't take on a burden everyone else will pay for too
Sparky
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