Your messages are bringing tears to my eyes. I am the mother of a 20 year old narcissistic daughter. Unfortunately she is the spitting image of her narcissistic father. I am having a lot of trouble with guilt. Sometimes I hate myself for bringing such a person into the world. A few weekends ago she staged a fake suicide attempt to get back at her boyfriend, who had broken up with her. When she realized he wasn't going to rescue her, she calmly called a taxi and went to the emergency room. Of course I didn't know this was all fake until after I'd gotten to the hospital and heard her tell me about her scheme. In the back of my mind I had a feeling she wasn't serious, as she's always needed to be the center of attention, but I was really angry and scared for her. But what I really needed was for someone to hear ME for a change so that I could explain how she's manipulative and attention seeking and a pathological liar. I'm so tired of being made to feel guilty for what she does and how she treats people. I'm so tired of being used and walked on by her and then made to feel like I'm a terrible mother because of how she turned out. HOW DO I COPE? How do you all cope with the narcissists in your lives? Sometimes I just feel like dying, just so I can escape this guilt and this pain. All I ever wanted was a normal kid, a good person, someone I could be proud of. But I hate her and I'm ashamed of her. I'm so scared she's going to get herself killed. I don't know how to deal with her anymore and I just feel like giving up. I don't have a life of my own. Everything is about trying to protect myself from her. I just feel so helpless.