I am just realizing that my 22yr old abusive son can't be helped from me. He has set me up for many falls. He has lied to me and everyone else all his life. He has always blamed me and held me responsible for his molestation 12yr ago. I have put my life and emotions on hold for this boy/man. He has totalled my truck, owes us 5,000 dollars and refuses to pay us back. I put a restraining order on him last yr and was thinking of amending the order to read we could contact only through mail so we could try to be a family again. The court date is this Monday and I have decided to cut the ties with him. I just can't keep making excuses for him abuse towards us. I don't want to keep looking over my shoulder and hoping he does not set me up again. I have PTSD and just cant do this anymore. My marriage has suffered because of his crap.

Please give me your oppinions.