I just read Duchess's story and wonder what happened to her. No more posts etc. In reading about her life and the family she got involved with. I could only think of Michael, an N but intellectually brilliant. He too is off the charts in math and took every math class offered in high school and has aced them all. Currently in his senior year he is taking a college course offered on campus for the gifted in math. I don't know what the future holds for him, but I do know there will always be victims because he too has no soul, no caring about anyone but himself. When Duchess talked about feeling intimidated at the conversations since this kid could debate again I remember Michael. He was captain of the school debating team and was always in his element if he could argue some topic, he called it debating and discussions, I just found it irratating (sp). His dad thought it was a wonderful resource for Michael on the debate team, until he realized everything he learned there he turned and used it on us.
We said white he said black, we said hot he said cold, anything was fair game to argue about. If something came on the news and we took a stance he would take the opposite and proceed to debate why we were wrong. He felt his opinion was the only one that mattered and we just became exhausted with the daily drama of his presense. Today with his mother he is doing the same MO, to him he sees everyone in his life as expendable and worthless. He uses and abuses and as his father said his son is burning every bridge behind him. None of the family is interested or cares about hearing what Michael is up too. Having been victims makes you indifferent to these predators. I am firmly convinced Michael will be the next serial killer (he has no self control and is consummed with anger, and must be dominate in all relationships), or he will be the guy heading up some company with no ethics walking all over the employees and stockholders. Time will only tell what path he takes for his future but I pray no woman, or man gets intimately involved with him (he is bisexual) because they will be terrorized and maybe even killed by him. I p ut nothing past someone without a conscience.
I wonder how Duchess is doing? Her story sounded so familiar to mine. My only salvation here was that Daddy finally had his son turn on him when I backed completely out of the games Michael played. His daddy became the go to go for his every whilm since my response was always no, not interested, please don't bother me etc., just address it with your father. YOU ARE NOT MY CHILD, hence your problems are not my problems. When he finally became a problem for his father it was only then that my feelings and concerns were validated. I was no longer the problem in his father's eyes, but just a victim of his son's behavior like he had become.
That saying someone has to walk in your shoes is so true, until then they just don't get it and when it is their child it is much harder to be objective.
I pray for all those suffering with children that have these disorders, because there is no happy ending. It is just a matter of letting go and hoping they don't hurt others beyond repair.
Hugs to you all. |
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