Please bare with me. need to give a little history before I get to the meat of it all.          I divorced my ex-wife roughly 4 yrs ago because I couldn't take stress any longer. Up until a year ago I had always thought it was some how my fault. Thats until my fiancee looked up Narcisstic Personality, thats when I realized it wasn't me. Any way when I left, the state of mind I was in, thinking I was doing what was best for my then 10 yr old daughter. I left her in her moms full custody.

    She was always a sweet kid, a very loving child.  When I finally met my future wife she was fine with it....for awhile. I would get her 2 nights a week then every other weekend we would spend the weekend at my fiancee with her 4 boys, this was alright for awhile. But my fiancee saw things that I was oblivious to, the little mind games, having me get up get her drinks or food. Well I finally started seeing things that needed attention, her grades for one. She was failing computer class, but when I spoke with her mom about, her exact words were, "It's only one F and I'm to worried about it anyway" so I started, like any concerned parent, trying to talk to her about her grades. They continued on a downward spiral, when I told her if this continued  the principle told me she would be held back, she replied "no I'm not", she flatly told she wasn't gonna stay back with the 5th graders.

     The other thing was her wieght, mind you I'm not expressing this concern for a beauty factor but for the health factor, she is now 13 and has to be close to 240lbs. mind you I have sugar all thru my family, she was actually was taken to the doctor because she had got dizzy and the doctor thought she had sugar. Mind you as her mother is telling me this my daughter comes walking up with a pepsi and a bag of doritos, and her mom thinks nothing of it. Which we tried helping her cut out the sugar. Which this was turned into us not liking her for who she was. And so the down spiral began. When I finally got a call from daughter and she told me how mommy had taken her and her cousin to a hotel so mommy could meet some guy she had been talking to on the internet.

    I started working towards getting custody the next day, by the end of the week my daughter had got wind , and said she wanted nothing to do with me.

    When we had "the talk" over our why....her mom was right there pacing behind her like a drill seargant. when i asked why she had said everything was fine for the last 2 yrs...she said " It's called acting daddy"

    I tried to carry on a relationship with my daughter, but talking out problems wasn't perimitted, as long as we were going shopping she'd talk and laugh, but once we were heading home or she realized I wasn't going to "buy" her anything, she'd curl up on the othe side of the truck and go to sleep. I finally couldn't take the sterelized converstions, and gradually stopped seeing her. Now my mom and dad go get her, and my mom takes her shopping, now if their not going shopping she seems to find excuses not to come, or just won't even return my moms calls.

   I 'm sorry..I feel like I have just been rambling...i know she doesn't anywhere near as bad as some of the ones I've read about. But I fear see her being groomed to be just like her mom and moms mom.  very selfish, unhappy people...mind you my ex has never been diagnosed as a Narcisstic, but she matches 95% of the Narcisstic profile, and my daughter just thinks mommys the greatest, and I am slowly seeing my daughter picking up her mothers attitudes. I can't even bear to talk to her anymore, don't know what to say anymore. Barely recognize her anymore