Well, I am so relieved  finding this group and reading some of the other parent's stories! It is always wonderful finding you are not alone and haven't caused your child's "problem".

Read some articles on NPD today and had to laugh, they fit my daughter and the life she has created for me to a T.  What is sad is that there really is no hope, no cure, no med, etc - but, I think I had already resigned myself to this life years ago. 

But, thanks to all of you, I no longer regret the decision I made to kick her out when she graduates high school (if I can live another 6 1/2 years!).  I have considered selling my home and buying an RV then so I would no longer have a permanent address to ensure I will not be an enabler in her adult life.  Fortunately, I can retire then if I chose!

The biggest problem I have (ha ha ha) is the way my daughter and her behavior have alienated me from the world.  I have no friends, no social life, etc.  Fortunately, I have a job I love.  Also a big relief and assurance to me that I am a good person are my cat and dog - they are always there and always provide calm and love to me.

Every day I thank God for my patience and ability to not take things personal - and pray for more - I know God gave my daughter to me for  a reason - if she was given to another, she could be dead at their hand by now!  I have to reassure myself of that frequently - I guess to reassure myself of my worth and to keep me going.

 

Kaye